Pregnancy lost at 12 weeks scan

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Hello,
unfortunately I went for my 12 week scan yesterday to find out it’s dead and only measuring like its 9weeks and 3 days so been in me for a few weeks dead. I had a scan on 6th October and all was well. So I don’t know why this has happened. This is my 2 mc this year 😭 last time I was only 6weeks. I’m in a right state. Can’t stop crying. I already have a 2 year old so trying to keep strong for him but he went to preschool this morning and I cried the hole time he was away..
I took the first tablet yesterday and got to go back in Thursday to stay while I take all the other ones and for the baby to come out.. all I wanted yesterday was not to carry it anymore. But nothing is that fast acting.. I had it checked by 2 different people and there was no heart beat!
I’m dreading the next part. But when I went into the scan room I didnt want to look so my body obviously knew something was wrong.. because Baby is 9weeks 3 days I’m not allowed to come home and cope with it coming out I have to stay in.. I’m heart broken hate leaving my little one, but I’ve planned a fun exciting day on Thursday for him..
all I want is a sibling for my happy healthy 2 year old!
What am I doing wrong ? Have I made the right decision going for the tablets? I didn’t like the idea of surgery and because it has been in me a while they didn’t want to leave it there any longer so no options to come home and wait and see. Sorry it’s a bit of a rambling post ...^^

Hi, I am sorry you have to go through this. I have a 10 month old and should be 17 weeks pregnant. I'm 40 so I thought I best have another baby soon.

Anyway...it didn't happen, saw baby during 12 week scan (was 13 weeks) breathed a sigh of relief to see it there and then was told it was very poorly and likely to miscarry on its own. To cut a long story short I decided to terminate based on the scan and later told the results of my CVS- it was T21.

So I terminated at 13.5 weeks. I took the tablet. I didn't have a choice, NHS won't do surgery past a certain few weeks gestation. I think you're making the right choice as there's possibly more complications re surgery. If you want more info about the procedure- just ask.

Sorry to hear your going threw similar..
unfortunately I have no clue what to expect as first mc happened on its own.. I keep feeling like little flutters which I have as I know it’s not alive.. is your tablet you took the same as my one ? I had to take one yesterday to loosen cervix then on Thursday have to take 4vaginally for it to come out.. 😭😭😭😭
Thank you for replying as I feel alone and lost.. don’t want to go out of my house at all..

Hello,
So sorry to hear about your loss. It's a truly awful thing to go through and I'm still recovering from it happening to me 8 weeks ago. I went for a 9 week scan and found out baby had stopped growing a few weeks back. I know the feeling of just wanting it out and I opted to have the 4 tablets inserted straight away. They did let me go home to miscarry and I wish I hadn't gone home because I was in such awful pain and they could have helped me if I was there. I do totally understand the feeling of wanting it all out. I'm still recovering from the whole experience because it was my first pregnancy and I just never thought this could happen. I didn't realise missed miscarriages were even a thing! What a truly awful shock. I bought a little Swarovski crystal teddy to remember it by. I felt that really helped me having a physical object to hold and look at. I bought it online the day that I miscarried.
Once again, so sorry to hear your news.

I think it will be similar or the same- at just over 9 weeks it will make your uterus contract and then you will pass the fetus. You may have to take another dose orally. Often people have to take more than one dose, but if it is 9 weeks 3 days then I think there will be no placenta which should make it more straightforward for you.

I had four doses in the end- passed the fetus 15 hours after the first dose. It may be quicker for you. Placenta was unfortunatley still attached, I had injection to pass the placenta and it didn't work so ended up having ERPC in the end- was in hospital two nights and three days unfortunately. I think it is rarely as complicated as my story and because the placenta was formed and baby was 13.5 weeks it was more complicated.

Sorry to hear your been threw it too.. they did say they have about 5 in a day who’s it happened to. But as you I’ve never heard of it before but seems it happens a lot 😞😞 oh I couldn’t have the 4 tablets straight away as they need to soften my cervix and everything up.. Yes because your baby was 9weeks below you was allowed home. But my baby is 9weeks 3 days so I’m not allowed home. Had frost tablet Monday and got to go in Thursday to have the rest! Is the pain really bad then? Once it was out was pain lower ? Sorry for questions but I feel I need to know these 😞😞 aww that’s a sweet idea, I collect pandora so might see if there’s something suitable.. but can’t get far atm as we never know when and if it’s going to start.. I just want it all over. Dreading tomorrow 😞😞

Hi,
Well for me the pain was honestly the worst I've ever had but I'm only telling you that so know it's normal and yes, the pain almost completely vanished after it all came out. I would say the pain started as strong period pains and then it got very very intense to the part when I lost the pregnancy and then after about 45 minutes of the worst pain, I passed a lot and then it all calmed down a lot. I don't want to scare you and remember that everyone is different. I wish I had known this before it happened to me because I got really scared and phoned 111 for help! It is normal and it doesn't last long. I found that pushing on the toilet helped pass it all and that eased the pain. So basically, I had the 4 tablets at about 1pm and then by 5/6pm I was in the worst pain and passing everything. By 7 I was fine with the pain and the bleeding calmed. If you need to ask any other questions then please feel free to. I know what an awful time it is but you will get through it x

Pain wasn’t bad for me at all. I felt the contractions and went and asked for some painkillers and suddenly it happened. But then I was induced with that horrible drip and that was real pain

This will involve everything I went threw to hope answer questions for everyone else who is unfortunately going threw this.. So it’s been 1 week 4 days since It all happened!
It broke my heart 💔
So I got told to phone at 8:30 to see when my bed was ready, they didn’t know so told me to phone at 9:30 they still didn’t know, so I had to wait for them to ring me with a time. Any way they phoned me at 11:15 asking for me to come in for mid day.. I had a few spots of blood that morning and when got to hospital had contractions, had first lot of Thursday pills at 12:45, contractions got worse. Had to have a allergic pill too as my hands went all red and itchy after taking the first dose. I didn’t take anything fornoain apart from pacacetamol! I was more comfy sitting on toilet while having them (poor hubby sat on the shower chair to support me) done some fast walking around the room. Then 4:45 I had to take the next set as nothing had come out.. spotting had stopped aswell.. I also had to do everything on a toilet pan so they could keep an eye on it. Change toilet pan everytime I had a wee or what ever and had to ring bell for them to collect.. well at 5oclock it all happened, sitting on toilet and had bright red wee and then boom. It was out broke my heart in so many bits seeing it lifeless and not very big but big enough to see shape of it etc. They then kept me in a hour after to make sure all was ok, and to check the baby and placenta to make sure it was all out. Got the all clear so was allowed home but was to rest.. was in a fair amount of pain Thursday Friday and the weekend.. pain came and went from there on wards.
My advise to you is have the support around you don’t be scared to tell people. My neighbour, my Mum and my sons mates Mum from school was my support helping me with my son and dogs ❤️ I couldn’t of done it with out them! Open up don’t be scared of people knowing. I wasn’t telling anyone apart from my mum until my mum spoke to me and said you need the support if people are asking tell them.. it’s been a week and a few days and still can’t look at the photos. But I knew I would regret if I didn’t take any for once I’m in a much stable place to look! Rip mummies little baby 💔💔

Id also like to thank you all for replying to me when I was in such a bad way! I’m sorry your been threw it too.. it’s so heart breaking but in my eyes it happened for a reason. (I would like to know the reason tho as ive had 2 this year😢😢 Onwards and upwards from now on and fingers cross it’s not going to make my depression or anxiety worse!