Miscarried on Sunday. Where do I go from here?

[flosspot]

I've been ttc for 18 months and have had two cycles of Clomid. Found out I was pregnant by accident on Tuesday as we were packing to go on holiday. Started bleeding on Sunday and spent three days in and out of French hospital. They told me I had miscarried on Tuesday. i was six weeks.

I'm just not sure what I should do now. Do I tell my GP, my friends, my clients? I know I only knew for a few days, but I saw this little blob that would have become a baby on the monitor when they scanned me on Sunday. I don't know what to feel, how I should move forward, what to do next.

help and advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

I can't say anything constructive but just wanted to post and bump for your benefit. Someone will come along soon

Big hugs to you xxxxxx

So sorry for your loss, flosspot.
Tell as many or as few people as you can cope with.
The fact that you only knew about your pregnancy for a few days doesn't mean that your loss is any less devastating.
Be kind to yourself, and let yourself grieve however you need to.

flosspot - so sorry for your loss. I lost 2 babies last year, and it's horrible.

The whole feeling of numbness is quite normal - you have no idea how you should move on ... the best way to be is just to let yourself heal. If you need, to cry, cry. If you need to talk about it, do that.

I would suggest you go and see your GP - just to let them know what has happened. It is completely up to you whether you tell your friends / family / clients.

Everybody I work with knew about both mc - the first because I started to bleed whilst at work, and the second because they all knew about the pregnancy. That felt right for me - it may not feel right for you.

Give yourself time. You will heal, you will be able to move on. Good luck for the future.

So sorry to hear this, flosspot.

xxx

flosspot - I don't 'know' you but I'm very sad to read you have lost your baby and didn't want you to feel alone.

I've never had to have clomid but I have had miscarriages - you need to give yourself some time to grieve before making any more decisions, give yourself some space if that makes sense to you. You don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to but perhaps your GP should know? I'd also take some sick leave or compassionate leave if you're finding that you are upset a lot, I took 3 weeks after my first m/c (was 16 wks and physically took a lot of recovering as lost lots of blood) but the time helped me to ground myself again.

Good luck in what you decide to do.

Golly- thanks everyone. I had made an appointment to see the doc on my return from hols to confirm pregnancy, so plan on telling him. Oherwise haven't made any decisions. Am officially all by myself since this all happened as DH had to go away. Bit wobbly...but your thoughts have really helped.