Paranoid about future miscarriages

[PinkLady89x]

Hello everyone,
So I had my first positive pregnancy test in July this year and everything seemed to be going really well. I got to 8 weeks and booked an early scan with my partner to have a reassurance appointment. They told me there that they couldn't see a heartbeat and that the baby was small for its age so I was referred to the hospital a week later. At that next appointment they told me that the baby had died/ not grown and that I needed to decide how I wanted to miscarry. I never had any symptoms of miscarriage at all. I didn't have any cramps or bleeding. Everything was fine. If I hadn't paid for an early scan then I wouldn't have known for even longer.
6 weeks have now passed and I have had an AF a couple of weeks ago. I'm on CD 17 now and I've had so much EWCM and a very positive OPK which I never really had before when TTC. Maybe we are more fertile when we have had a MC? Any experiences of that?
My worry is though that it will all happen again. Because I don't know what went wrong, I'm convincing myself that my eggs are poor quality or that I have chromosomal problems with my eggs? Has anyone else had these scary thoughts or experienced similar things and then gone on to have normal pregnancies? I'm just looking for some positive vibes because I can't shake the thought that I'll never have children. I know I've only had one MC but it's totally shocked me. I'm just looking for some sort of reassurance at a very dark time in my life . I'm a primary school teacher therefore I spend my life around little children and it is currently a constant reminder for me. I just want one of my own .
Sorry for the long post but I have this going over in my head on a constant loop.
Thanks x

For the record I'm 29 and have always had normal AF cycles and am otherwise very healthy. X

Hi, pink lady. I can totally relate to your post, it’s been a month since my mc and I’m feeling the same, was my first pregnancy. Just at the tail end of first af and looking to try again but I’m so worried. I’m 32, fairly healthy and regular cycles. Sorry I can’t offer any positive stories but I wanted to let you know that you aren’t alone in your thoughts and that I’m going through exactly the same thought process. X

I can definitely relate- my first pregnancy I tripped along to the 12 week scan, to be told the sac was no more than 6 weeks; rescanned a week later, no growth, MMC diagnosed, surgery next day. I was shell-shocked.

14 months later conceived again, natural miscarriage at 6 weeks.

Next cycle, conceived DS- was very anxious for the whole pregnancy, but he is perfect and now 2.5 ❤️

When he was 1, started trying again- fell pregnant in January this year, but at 12 week scan (after early good scan seeing a heartbeat) we were told baby had died at 13 weeks, another MMC. I opted for surgery again as the least traumatic resolution. Genetic testing was performed and the baby had a completely random chromosomal abnormality that was unlikely to recur.

I'm now 16 weeks pregnant. Yes I am anxious, as with DS I find it hard to believe that pregnancy = baby, but am trying to enjoy every day of being pregnant and have faith.

Having one, or many, miscarriages doesn't mean you won't carry to term in the future. Try to stay positive and hope it will work out.