How do you enjoy pregnancy after miscarriage?

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I've had a miscarriage and once it's all over, we hope to try again. But I'm so nervous. I don't know how I will be able to cope with another pregnancy for fear it will happen again.

I was 10 weeks when i experienced a big rush of blood. I had had a pain the day before and it took my breath away, but only for 5 minutes then I was back to normal. No pain when the bleeding started.

I just don't know how I will be able to do anything if I get pregnant again. I was luckily at home when my miscarriage started, but I am always out with my DD who's a toddler and I was a lot as I don't drive. It's been hard coping with my toddler.

Due to the size of the baby they cannot give me a D&C or meds to speed it up as I need to go for a rescan first. I know my dates and when got my BFP. Sadly there is no heartbeat so baby stopped developing at 6 weeks.

I know there's not anything I could of done to stop my miscarriage.

In some ways I think I should take a break from ttc but I'm nearly 40 and I guess age is a factor How did you cope?

I’m 8weeks after a mmc found at 12 weeks last year. It’s taken a while to get pregnant again. I just wanted to get pregnant and didn’t give any thought to how I’d cope (I have subfertility and with my first pregnancy I was blithely innocent thinking that the battle was to get pregnant, not stay pregnant)

Sorry to say, it’s just hard! I got an early scan at 7 weeks and saw a heartbeat, so at least I know there is something growing for now. I don’t think I’ll be comfortable or relaxed until I can feel it moving (or maybe the whole pregnancy will be one mess of emotion...).

I’m coping one day at a time. Today I’m pregnant. And hope that continues.

Good luck.

Oh OP that's really hard
I speak as some who has had a late miscarriage and also worked professionally in pregnancy loss, it's not easy the next time round and the worry may always be there but you can still enjoy being pregnant alongside that. Worrying or being careful won't affect the outcome, you just have to try and enjoy each day as the PP said and know you'll find a way to cope if the worst happens.

@SinkyMalinks congratulations ! @YouCantCallMeBetty

Thank you for your replies and sorry you have both had to experience a loss too. I appreciate your advice and kind words.

Quite a few friends have unfortunately had miscarriages. Many of them when trying for a second child like me. The reality of what it's actually like to experience it, has been a big shock to me. The physical part hasn't been talked about. I probably didn't support them that well as I didn't ask about their physical wellness but just offered my sympathies / emotional support.