Can I ask about flowers?

[NuzzleandScratch]

I hope this is ok to post here, but a friend has just lost twins at 9 weeks, and I was wondering about sending her flowers, but I really don't know if this is the right thing to do. Would just a card be better? She actually texted me already, so I've obviously sent a message back already. Would appreciate any advice.

I would think flowers would be lovely - I've done it before when a friend had a miscarriage.

We recieved several deliveries of flowers when we lost our baby at 13 weeks. Each delivery made us cry because it showed us people cared about us and our lost baby and were thinking of us even though we were not in a place where we were ready to see or talk to people. The flowers really meant a lot and we took photos of them and kept the tags with kind messages for our baby memory box. If you want to send flowers I am sure your friend will appriciate the lovely gesture x

Flowers is a lovely gesture, you are a very thoughtful friend for wanting to check firstly as well. We all need friends like you when we are going through something like this xx

I'm so sorry your friend is going through this. What a lovely gesture from you to want to send flowers. Everyone is different but personally I really appreciated it when one friend turned up with flowers for me. It was such a lovely thing for her to do. So I would say yes, I'm sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

I got flowers from a friend for my MC this week - and it was lovely, its nice to have something happy and beautiful during this awful time. I'm sure she'll really appreciate it.

Personally when I had my Mc at 12 weeks I hated flowers arriving
It was a lovely thought but every time a bunch arrived I just started crying again and I didn’t want a house full of flowers either.
Not everyone is the same though

Thanks everyone, and I'm sorry many of you have been through this. The consensus seems to be it's ok, although I can see @Hoppinggreen that for some it may be upsetting. She's had a rough couple of years in other ways too, so I think I'll send them.

As someone who has suffered several MC It’s a lovely thought to send flowers. However my favourite was from a work colleague who sent a small bubble vase with a single perfect rose. I cried buckets because it represented the baby I lost. I air dried it and kept it. All the others were large bunches but this one was small and very appropriate.

One thing I’d say is always acknowledge her babies even if they are not here anymore and we’re very tiny when lost. Everyone just skirted round the subject with me not wanting to talk about it or saying that I would get PG again (very inappropriate given we were doing IVF for seven years!). If she wants to talk about them please let her.

Personally I wouldn't have liked flowers on either of my miscarriages but would have understood the sentiment behind them.

Sounds like I am in the minority though.

Just wanted to update to say my friend received the flowers today, and she said they've really cheered her up.

Yes- I was very touched to receive flowers. I ask received a care package of treats- chocolate, gin, magazines etc. Knowing others are thinking of you means everything.

(Also* not ask)

My friend sent flowers and a lush gift set. I was so grateful. Really helped to know someone was there thinking about us.