Natural Miscarriage and Working

[shelly000999]

Hi Everyone

Just wondering how much time you took off work, if any, if you have gone through a natural miscarriage? Mine is currently happening and although I'm at work, I'm finding it quite difficult :(

Oh love, go home! I work remotely and even i took a day off. You need to be in bed.

Thanks @HalfStar and sorry you've gone through this too. I have worked from home for a couple of days but was afraid of missing too much work :( But now I'm here I feel really uncomfortable.

Go home you poor thing! I worked through my first miscarriage and ended up in floods of tears, then stressing about my decreased performance. In hindsight I should have taken off a couple of days to mourn and physically recover. People take off a few days for a cold.

I had my second miscarriage over Christmas and although I was further along, I recovered more quickly, I think because I wasn't so bloody stressed as well as sad and sore.

Really sorry you are going through this 💐💐

I took a week off and strongly suggest you do the same. Everyone is different, some people like the distraction of work, but please don't force yourself to do anything. Take your time. You need to go home and rest. In hindsight when I had an ERPC shortly after my week off I wish I had taken another week off. I underestimated the emotional recovery. Lots of love, it does get easier xx

I’m so sorry you are going through this. please get yourself home. I’ve been working from home waiting for my mc to happen naturally and will take some time off when it happens. I walked to the shop by myself today and was paranoid enough that it would happen then. I couldn’t cope with it happening in the office. Please look after yourself and don’t worry about work xx

So sorry for your loss.
I had a natural miscarriage 10 days ago. I took the week off the the miscarriage was happening and was advised by the hospital to take some time. My doctor signed me off for 2 weeks. Everyone’s different though and although I’m ok physically, emotionally I’m still up and down ( think it’s the hormones as well) and I know that I wouldn’t be able to do my job feeling like that. I would take some time x

Unfortunately I am self employed. Mc at a customer's house and just had to get on with my day.
Back at work next day.
Sounds callous but no work no cash for the dc I have.
Didn't make it less of a trauma trust me.

If you are finding it difficult, whether physically or emotionally, take the time you need.

I've had 2 natural miscarriages and worked through the first, but not particularly through choice - I was bleeding very heavily but also was up for a promotion and didn't want my asshole old-school boss to put me out of the running because we were trying to conceive. It was hard but the right call at the time, I had no other DCs and would have spent time at home dwelling on it, and no baby and no promotion would have been even worse, especially as it then took us a while to conceive again.
The next one I'd already announced the pregnancy and was further along, so took a week for physical recovery and so that word could get around and I could spend time processing. It was better physically and emotionally to have some extra time, but after that I did need to be back at work for the distraction.
So sorry to hear your news and best of luck with whatever you do next

I’ve been signed off for two weeks following surgical management of a miscarriage at 9 weeks and really feel I need it, my job is very presentation based and really need to be on the ball with it, if you can take time off then you should consider it, the main thing is to try to heal, also I need practically to return maternity and baby gear which I find hard to do, hope you feel better soon xx

Thanks for your input everyone and I'm sorry we've all had to go through this :(

It's been two weeks today, the bleeding is finally subsiding I think. I ended up doing a combination of working from home and coming into work, which in retrospect was a mistake, I should've just taken some time completely off.

Also had to do an interview to effectively keep my job this morning (was originally postponed from the day after I found out I was miscarrying two weeks ago). I'm just not in the right mindset and it didn't go well. Trying not to feel sorry for myself but it would be nice if just one thing could go right.....

Shelly, I think you are allowed to feel sorry for yourself . It’s pretty crappy to have to do an interview while you are going through this. Take care of yourself xx

Yes Shelly you poor thing, don’t worry about work I know it is easy to say but you can’t be stressed about that and I bet your perception of how things went is affected by how bad you are bound to feel at the moment. Also to us all in general I am taking feroglobin liquid iron to try to avoid feeling anemic let’s try to look after ourselves really well at this horrible time xx

Oh goodness, I'm so sorry for your loss. You should definitely have taken off all the time you need to heal emotionally and physically from this. I had 4 weeks off for my mc and 8 weeks since the mc I'm still emotionally nowhere near feeling strong but forcing myself to get on with routine life. Please get all the support you need and don't put too much pressure on yourself to get back to normal.