MMC - Thought I was 10 weeks, baby measured 7+2

[babibach]

Hi all,
I went to A&E Thursday after having brown discharge on the Wednesday, changing to red bleeding on the Thursday. Gynae department closed at 5pm, so they couldn’t scan me, so told me to come back on the Friday morning and go to the EPAU at 8:30am for them to scan me, although they weren’t concerned.
I got to EPAU at 8:30am and they said they couldn’t scan me as I didn’t have an appointment. The nurse was lovely and said she would speak to the sonographer to ask if she would scan me after all the other appointments and to go have a cuppa and keep my phone on. Got the call asking me to go back at 9:45am. Finally went in about 10:30am, tried an abdominal scan but couldn’t see anything. Then tried internal scan and was told that they saw what they presumed was baby, measuring 7+2 (I should have been 10 weeks at this stage). I’m devastated and feel empty. My fella is being fantastic, but he’s hurting too.
I have to go back for a confirmation scan next Friday, but I’m cramping more today and passing more blood so that’s it.
As a teacher, I’ve had 6 weeks off and don’t really want to miss the first week back, but my fella is adamant he doesn’t want me going back on Monday, when it was only confirmed on the Friday before. I’m doing ok, but every now and then it hits me, which is to be expected.
This was our first pregnancy and so our first miscarriage, but I know that we both want to try again. I have suggested we wait until December, so that there is time for bleeding to stop and to hopefully have another period post MC and my fella is totally supportive which is great.
Only since finding out about our MC have me and my fella come to realise just how many people go through this that you don’t even realise.
Hope you’re all keeping well. X

I am so sorry for your loss. Hope you are doing ok x

@babibatch so sorry to hear, I suffered a MC in May thought I was 8w no heartbeat and baby stopped at 6w3d.
I had 3 weeks off work, I did have a DC but I think until all bleeding and cramping stops it's best to take time off. I couldn't even stand when I had my cramping.
There is a good thread on here called MMC - lots of advice & support in there.
Hugs x

I'm so sorry to hear this. This happened to two friends of mine at work. One needed the time off, the other wanted to come back for the distraction. I think everyone is different and should do what is best for them under these circumstances. Please do take time off if it will help you. Your doctor would no doubt sign you off if you were worried.

I had bleeding on my first day back st work at 28 weeks. Had to have steroid injections as a precaution so would have had to miss one days work. When I phoned in to apologise the head called me back herself and insisted I took the rest of the week off even though it was the first week back. Xx

Thanks all for your messages. I'm definitely taking this week off as I have my follow up scan on Friday anyways. I was in a lot of pain earlier, with heavy clots and bleeding, but this has eased this evening. I just wonder how you know when the mc is complete? I'm obviously not imagining for a second that everything is over yet, but how can you tell when it is? X

Ive been thinking of you today OP, I'm sorry to hear about the pain and discomfort you've been in. You should have follow up scans to check everything is complete. Xx

I do have a follow up scan booked for Friday, but this was explained to me initially as a confirmation scan to confirm miscarriage, as I only had what would be deemed 'light bleeding' at the initial scan on Friday. So will follow up scans continue until all tissue etc has gone? X

One of my friends that I mentioned had to have more then just the one follow up as not everything had naturally moved for her, and so she had to have more hospital visits (which I assume were scans) to keep checking if everything had moved naturally. It can be dangerous if it doesn't and is left for a prolonged period of time so, from my understanding they shouldn't discharge you if there is still tissue there (if they did I would seek a second opinion). I also believe they can give medicine to help move things along if needed xx

Just to add - it may be slightly different as she didn't have any signs of bleeding or anything, they only discovered her miscarriage at the 12 week scan. But I imagine they would need to be careful and check all was clear? Xx

They did mention either taking the 'wait and see' approach, the medical management with tablets or surgical management. Just hoping it's all moving along naturally x