Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

Original poster

Advice? Please

7 replies

Thatgirl123 · 26/08/2018 19:16

So I had a miscarriage 9 months ago.
I’m still really heart broken I keep having nightmares about it I can’t sleep because I cry myself to sleep all the time. I’m anxious all the time I don’t know what to do, I want to go back to normal, I really need someone advice please x

OP posts:
Original poster
Thatgirl123 · 26/08/2018 19:18

I was also in hospital a couple of weeks ago with an ruptured ovarian cyst, I can’t help but think what if I had another cyst come and rupture maybe that’s why I miscarried. It’s been 9 months and I still blame myself

OP posts:
Yoshei · 26/08/2018 21:13

Hi,

I'm sorry for your loss. I also had nightmares after my first miscarriage, but if they have continued for 9 months I think it is best you seek professional help. Do you have a good support system? Can you talk about your feelings and nightmares to anyone close to you?

Don't blame yourself for your miscarriage, especially if you didn't consiously did anything that could have harmed the baby. (Even if you did, chances are small that's what made the difference)

Original poster
Thatgirl123 · 26/08/2018 21:33

Support system isn’t very good, the dad we’ve had a rough year so when I talk to him about it he dismisses it and I didn’t know I was pregnant but I didn’t go out drinking or anything. Thank you for replying

OP posts:
Yoshei · 26/08/2018 21:53

I'm sorry you've had a rough year. I hope you can find someone who's willing to talk. On the internet are plenty who don't mind talking about it, but it's different if it comes from someone nearby right?
Don't be too hard on yourself, I'm sure you did everything in your power to protect the baby. Sometimes even when we do all we can, it may be that nothing's good enough.
I hope you can find a way to relieve the stress and cope with the grieve.

Original poster
Thatgirl123 · 26/08/2018 22:07

Yeah when it comes from someone who’s seen you go through it all it’s different. I think for once I need to look out for myself and make this a part of my life that every time I think about it I don’t cry or feel angry at myself. Thank you x

OP posts:
InDreamland · 27/08/2018 20:04

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so awful isn't it! Have you had counselling? I'd ask for a referral for counselling, even if you have had some you'd maybe benefit from more. Hope you can find some good support Flowers

Original poster
Thatgirl123 · 27/08/2018 21:10

Thank you. I haven’t had councilling before the babies dad thinks I should go for it but I’m unsure. I’m scaredy-cats if I sit and talk about it means I’ll have to relive it all again

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page