TTC after Miscarriage? Positive outcomes after please!

[Rainbow714]

Im currently having a MC i think the worst is now over with, well apart from the emotional side anyways. Im looking for postive replies after a MC, did people try straight after or wait a few months? Weve been trying for a year so was pretty heartbroken its ended this way. When i suffered a MC a few years ago i fell on 3 months later with our beautiful daughter. I feel im ready to try straight away and so is my husband, ive not taken a test to see if its negative as still bleeding. Did people take one straight away after they had stopped bleeding or waited 3 weeks? Sorry for long post xx

Hi @rainbow714 hope you’re doing as well as you can in this horrible situation. This is my first post since taking a break after my miscarriage.

I found out I was pregnant in January, just few days after my birthday. I was newly married and both scared and excited to have my first baby. Sadly I had a missed miscarriage in Early March. I took the natural option and after a few (long, hard) weeks I passed everything through. I was just short of 12 weeks. I initially decided I didn’t want to have a baby, and that I needed to grieve. And I did that, I took a few months of were I cried, screamed and hated myself. But I also in the few months learnt a lot about myself as well as my husband and how incredibly supportive he was of everything. It was very hard on him too. So by May, I had cleared the miscarriage but had very bad periods. Very heavy, clotting, painful and irregular. Overall, it’s taken me about 3-4 months of healing both psychically and emotionally. My period is still irregular but i did ovulatate this month. And this was our first month of ‘trying’ for a baby.

Everyone has very different experiences, for some they can have a baby straight away and want to try again, for others it’s too painful to even think about. So it’s definitely on how you and your partner feel. If you feel both psychically and emotionally ready to try again, then that’s completely right for you.

Just in this time, look after yourself and each other. Take care of your body and let it heal. Eat good food to repair and nourish yourself. And have good kind people around.

Again, I am sorry for what you’re going through and I pray we get the baby we both desperately love and deserve. Lots of love and if you ever want to chat, I’m here!
Thinking of you,
Hanna.

Thank you for your reply Hanna, its such a shitty thing to go through. I hope your okay and moving on, This is my second MC and i think emotional i never got over it dont think you do...! Always thinking 'what ifs' ect. I think cause it took us a year to concieve this time so im worried it could take awhile to concieve again so naturally want to start trying straight away. Glad you took time to heal both physically & mentally, i think its hard for men throughout the whole of it. My husband had been great im glad your has too. In remembrance of the baby we lost we light a candle on the anniversary and usually have a good cry will do the same for this one too - the pain never leaves you. I got my rainbow baby after my last MC and wouldnt change her for the world so i suppose the saying "Everything happens for a reason" can be true. Thanks Hanna nice to have someone to talk to about it, ive got no family or friends that have so hard for them to understand. Take care and good luck xxx

I am sorry for your loss.
I think everyone is different with healing and how long wanting to leave it before trying again. It can also depend at how many weeks you lost your baby & if you needed medical management after. From my own experience I had an early loss, baby didn't progress past 6 weeks, and a miscarriage occurred. I then did a pregnancy test which was negative and we started trying straight away. I fell pregnant straight away with no period in between. For me this was great as I could focus on the positives and I tried to not dwell on what happened. My body was obviously healed and healthy enough to fall pregnant very quickly after. I have now have a healthy happy 18 month old. Best of luck maybe discuss with your health visitor or gp for advise, but unless of any medical complications try as soon as your ready. I often hear you are more fertile after a pregnancy also.

Thank you for your reply @practcallyperfectmummy, appreciate your comment. I was 10weeks but the baby had stopped growing at 5weeks, i opted for a natural MC but unfortnatly i had to have Medical Management the tablets to help speed things up. I knew a few weeks ago that things werent okay, so i kind of already was grieving it was the physical side that has taken longer this time. It will take time to heal i know that often still cry over my last loss. Im feeling stronger every day and hoping to ttc shortly. If you dont mind me adking, how long after the MC did you get a negative? Xx

Sorry for your loss @Rainbow714. I had a MMC last year (in August) at 12 weeks. I had the ERPC surgery, and it took around 3.5 - 4 weeks to get a negative pregnancy test.
In November, I got a BFP and my 3.5 week old girl is currently asleep on me! I found TTC emotionally hard to begin with, but much to my surprise I conceived more quickly than I did with the MMC pregnancy. I will admit that I struggled with anxiety in the pregnancy, particularly in the first 12 weeks, but that's to be expected after the shock of the MMC.