Reality check please 6 week scan

[faysieb]

Hi all,
Need a reality check please, not looking for positive stories more a honest view of chances!!

Back story 5 miscarriages over 3 years 2 MMCs then 3 chemicals.

Currently 6 weeks 4 days by last LMP and first time on Dr Shehatas plan for NK cells. I ovulated day 18/9.
Went in today, no Fetal pole and no heartbeat. Gestational sac was 7.7mm which he said equates to 5w 6d and large yolk sac of 4.2mm which he said can suggest it won't continue.
He was quite positive though saying it was an ok result and that as I ovulated late it wasn't unreasonable to see what we did. Back on Tuesday for a rescan but I just want to know! I had prepared myself for either good or bad news but to not know is worse!

Ladies you thoughts and experiences would be amazing.

Thank you x

Hello lovely, and I’m sorry to hear about what you are going through. This is a difficult question but I didn’t want to just ‘read and run’. I could give you my honest view of your chances, based on my own experience and those I’ve read about from other ladies... but I wouldn’t want you to rely on it, because although speaking honestly it would still only be a guess! My view, for what it’s worth, would be that it’s likely this might not work out - so it might be best to prepare yourself for that - but equally, don’t lose hope, because it could still go your way. It’s an annoyingly vague answer I know, but I’m not sure anyone (not even your doctor) would be able to give you a more accurate answer at this stage. It sucks, but all you can do is wait, and try to distract yourself with nice things in the meantime.

My personal experience: we were told at 7w2d scan that our baby probably wasn’t going to viable (measuring small, weak heartbeat). I had to wait a week to find out for sure. I can tell you that that week was the worst. Once I knew for sure that the baby hadn’t made it, I was able to move forward (i.e. start grieving, letting go - had D&C yesterday). So even though we got the worst possible outcome, for us, it is better being here dealing with our grief than it is being left waiting to know. Your next scan is ok Tuesday right? You just have to get through the next two days, then you will be able to move forward, either way. In the meantime, treat yourself to some lovely things and lots of rest.

Remember, if things don’t work out, the people on this forum will be here for you. There is so much empathy/solidarity to be found here.

I wish you all the very best xxx

Hi @fayesieb

So sorry this is happening to you, and for your losses. A similar thing happened to me. After IVF I went in for my early scan at 7+2 and they couldn't find a fetal pole or a heartbeat. Like you, I also had an enlarged yolk sac, which they were concerned about. I was booked in for a rescan the following week (last Tuesday), just to confirm it was not a viable pregnancy. I was thinking then we would just talk about management. However, this time they found an embryo and a heartbeat. The heartbeat was very slow, however, so they think it unlikely it will survive. I am booked back in next week for another scan to see what has happened.

I concur with you the waiting sucks. My first sonographer told me that they don't like to see the yolk sac over 5mm, so yours is still within those limits (mine was not). I wish you all the best and hope it's good news for you, and that it's a dating issue.