Am i crazy?

[Rainbow714]

Am i crazy asking for an ultrasound scan before i take tablets to induce the miscarriage?

So i had a scan on 6th Aug and was told my pregnancy sac hadnt developed in a week and only measured 5weeks. So they confirmed it was a MC i chose to let it happen naturally. Ive been waiting for it to happen and not sure if i can contine waiting....! Ive had no pain or bleeding, ive chosen to have the medical management today to induce it as we want to try and grieve and move on. Ive requested a scan beforehand though, im not sure if im crazy, or will help to come to terms with the loss. X

Unfortunately it can take a while for your body to start the miscarriage. Mins stopped growing at 8 weeks and I didn't know until 13 weeks - and that was only indicated by tiny spotting. I had to have medical management in the end.

If I was in your shoes I'd want a scan too though.

Well, why not? Sounds like it might help you accept the situation. It can take a while - weeks - to happen naturally.

Thanks for your replies, i had a MC before and it all happened so quickly so i kind of expected the same. Will be closure i think, im hoping it helps come to the terms with the loss. Xx

Not crazy at all. Perfectly natural to want a scan. Sorry for what you're going through. It's so awful. Hope you have lots of support as emotions (and hormones) can mean it takes a while to heal or learn to cope with a loss

Thank you for all your replies, i had the scan which helped me come to terms with the loss and kind of helped to me to cope as there was no hope for the pregnancy to continue. I had the tablets and the bleeding and cramping started pretty much straight away, thankfully i was able to come straight home. I appreciate all the messages, on the road to recovery now. Take care everyone xxx

Hi Rainbow, just wanted to send you hugs and solidarity. I’m going for d&c tomorrow. Xxx

So sorry @Rainbow714 very sad but glad you had the scan otherwise you'd forever be 'what if'
It'll happen for you

Pegs11 hope all goes okay tomorrow, take time to heal and rest. Hugs to you xx

Thank you @flumpybear, i agree with 'what if' xxx

Hope your okay @pegs11 thinking of you xx

Thank you Rainbow, I am just sat here with my two cats, my mum and her dog. They are all very lovely, it’s a real comfort.

I hope you are ok ... sending all the vibes xxx

Hope your on the mend @pegs11 xxx

Thank you, @Rainbow714. I feel almost back to normal physically. Mentally I’m not quite there, I feel pretty spaced out and disconnected, and the idea of being around people is quite abhorrent right now. But I only had my d&c on Friday, so it’s early days.

Although I’m not making any decisions right now, I do find myself thinking a lot about whether we should try again with the IVF... I keep thinking that if I were to get pregnant again, I’m not sure I would be able to enjoy it, I think I’d be really anxious about miscarrying again and I’m just imagining how awful it would be having to go through all of this again... and it really will be our last chance next time, as we only have one decent quality embryo left.

It is a horrible position to find myself in. I trust that the way forward will present itself in time, but whatever I decide, it’s going to take a lot of bravery, whether that’s admitting defeat and consigning myself to a life with no children, or putting myself through IVF for a 4th time.

How are you doing? X

The recovery takes along time and i honestly dont think you ever get over it. My last MC was 6 years ago and its still heartbreaking but i do believe you get stronger. Pregnancy is hard to enjoy once youve suffered a MC i concieved my daughter 3months after my last one and it was tough to enjoy the pregnancy worrying over everything, took my awhile to enjoy it and relax.
Youve got to make the right choice for you, it is common to have a healthy pregancy after MC so please dont give up hope yet, give yourself time to heal and let your body rest.
Weve been trying for a year for this baby and we were heartbroken its ended this way, we are hoping to ttc again once i physically feel better, im still bleeding heavy and are emotionally drained and exhasuted from it all. I hope one day we can give our daughter a sibling and complete our family but the loss and hearbreak never goes away, we find away to remember our loss and it helps to talk about things.
Hugs to you xxx