How long until you start to feel better?

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Two weeks ago I had a scan which showed a twin pregnancy but no heartbeats. Had to wait another week for a rescan which confirmed I’d lost both babies. I was 12 weeks according to my dates but the hadn’t grown past 6 weeks.

Opted for conservative management (big mistake on reflection!) and things happened quickly. Not much pain, passed the sac without much discomfort and thought I was on the right track.

Then 3 days later I feel ill, pain is horrendous as is the bleeding. Hospital all day Sunday who want to admit me but I say no (we have DC with additional needs so not easy to be away overnight). Got some codeine and went home.

Then on Tuesday night it all kicks off. Different pain, like being stabbed in the stomach. Shivering. Bleeding through sanitary towels every 10 mins and worse besides which I’ll leave out. Seen in hospital and started on 2 antibiotics, went back yesterday for a scan, there isn’t enough left now for surgical management so I have to power through.

My question is how long did it take you to start physically feeling better?

I’m so drained, my arms and legs hurt, I’m sleeping on a bath towel and up to the toilet constantly. Maybe I was naive to think I was going to sail through physically but after things had been relatively painless I feel so angry with my body that it’s taken a step back and I feel worse now than ever.

Hi, sorry for your loss.

In my opinion you did the right thing opting for conservative management. I didn’t and it took me a week to miscarry. Mentally it Drove me insane! Knowing that I was walking around with my dead child inside me and had been for the last month.

Is your partner being supportive?
With me I was extremely emotional for the first week. At first all I wanted was my parter to leave the house and go to work so that I could have a good cry. After days of doing this and not feeling better I cracked in front of him. Having someone to cry to was my best therapy, I just didn’t realise at first. After a very long and ugly cry with him I instantly felt better and haven’t tried since.

Even now three months later it does hurt to see pregnant women. A girl I work with announced she was pregnant two weeks ago. I think if I was still pregnant I would have been happy for her. But it ruined my day. I’m jealous and hate her for being pregnant. I feel horrible for feeling the way I do towards her but I can’t help it. I just go to work and put on a happy face and try to avoid her.

Xxxx