What to expect

[zombie999]

I had a scan yesterday which showed baby stopped growing around 6 weeks, no heartbeat. I have to see if it happens naturally or if they need to assist.

My question is if it happens naturally when will it happen and what should I expect?

Do I need to prepare myself to see a tiny baby? Is it going to hurt? Am I supposed to just flush it down the toilet

I just want this nightmare to be over.

Please tell me your stories and please don't worry about upsetting me I don't think I could be more upset so please an graphic details please don't leave out I need to hear the cold hard truth

@Luxembourgmama @Rainbow714 my friend had a similar experience last year she found out baby had stopped developing so went on to see if it passed naturally, that didn't happen so she had some pills and that still didn't do anything so she had a D&C she now has a healthy 6 month old but she was telling me some horrific things just yesterday and my heart breaks for her. Iv been through a mc before but that was so early I barely even knew I was pregnant so was just a period more than anything but yes this one around there is just so much blood and discomfort. I keep trying to see the positive that it was only early and I couldn't even imagine how those ladies feel who go full term and have still births. I honestly think they must be the strongest women ever to walk the planet. Nobody talks about miscarriage openly and I know from my point of view I haven't told anyone other than my mum and partner because I just feel slightly embarrassed that I was looking forward to having a baby embracing being pregnant and then....nothing but sympathetic looks. Xx

Im in for the tablets tomorrow and dreading it if im honest. My last MC i was 6 weeks and it happened naturally. I had cramps, i passed every thing and seemed to handle it better been at home and only lasted a few days. Im kind of preparing myself for the worst tomorrow. @luxembourgmama im so sorry for your loss hope you are okay. @zombie999 i coped better talking about not at first but eventually, please do not feel embarrased at all unfornatly it is a common thing and of course you were happy! Weve been trying for a year and its ended like this, we are heartbroken but hoping to try again. The baby will always be a part of your life and you should never be ashamed to talk about it, even if just to your partner or mum. Every year on the date we light a candle in remembrance of the loss we suffered before and we will for this loss too. I just need this to be over with now, ive requested a scan before i take the tablets. Take care xxx