Feelling low - stories of hope after 2 miscarriages

[Tobebythesea]

I’ve had two early miscarriages this year. Four friends have just had second babies and tonight I found out another friend is having her second child when my first was due. Feeling utterly low. Any positive stories would be very much welcome.

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Hi I'm so sorry for your loss it's an awful thing to go through. I had my first miscarriage in April 2014 at 9weeks i was absolutely devastated and quickly spiralled into depression. I shut myself away from my partner and son who was 10 at the time I just cried non stop. Seeing pregnant women and new babies crushed me i hated these women how was it fair they had two or more children and I just lost my second? Then in August i found i was pregnant again and I kept telling myself that it wouldn't happen again it of course did and I miscarried at 5 weeks, again utter devastation and loss. I found a support group on babycentre and they helped me a great deal especially realising i wasn't alone and they felt exactly the same as me. I got pregnant again in Jan 2016 and am sitting here with my nearly two yr old rainbow on my lap. I never thought I'd have another baby but I did and she's here. i never thought I'd be as lucky as those women in the street. It can happen, don't give up hope and don't beat yourself for how your feeling its completely normal

U also wanted to add that out of the 50 plus women in the support group most have had their rainbow babies after suffering two or more miscarriages and have even gone on to have more babies so there's always hope

Thank you

3 recurrent miscarriages in 3 years... 13 weeks now and all going well. :)

@ToBeByTheSea I don't have a story for you (yet!) but just wanted to say that I'm here too.

I feel so lonely I can't even describe it. I don't want to see my friends, they all have their babies. They can say kind words but they can't understand.

Praying we get our happy ending soon

Been where you are, took 6 years to get a positive test but lost baby at 9 weeks , felt desolate and spiralled into depression. After 6 months needed to make a change of scenery so booked a touring holiday, day before flying got another positive test so hated the holiday, fearful of another miscarriage. The pregnancy was lost at 7 weeks. Third pregnancy was much better supported and despite a high risk abnormality, a healthy and beautiful boy was delivered. His brother arrived 2 years later .

I have a story to tell, one I hope will lift your mood. I have been pregnant 16 times...I have 1 DS who is now 4 he was pregnancy number 16....

I slipped in to dispair and sadness on so many occasions, but I knew I just needed to keep going, that eventually the storm would pass. I would either actually have a baby or I'd come to terms with my infertility. I believed the later, I stopped TTC and decided I'd move on with life.

DS was an absolute shocker! He really was, completely unplanned and unexpected, but he's snoozing next to me in bed now.

And I also have more news for you, as I write this I've o my gone and gotten a bfp 2 days ago! I haven't had a period since Christmas so it's going to be a bit of guess work figuring out how far along I am, and maybe this baby will stick and maybe it won't. But that's the luck of the draw for people like me. I've given up blaming myself, or wondering what if. I've learnt to love myself and realise it's ok if it doesn't always work out, but it's wonderful if it does.

Chin up, it will be ok.

Hi all
I've had two miscarriages in the last year. I actually got pregnant pretty quickly on both occasions.
The last miscarriage was in January and I had to have a d&c. Since this we have been trying every month and I am feeling pretty low today as I know we've had another failed month.
Before pregnancy I had regular cycles of 28 days since January is been 36, 35 and then this month 38. I just don't know why it's getting longer and it's making every month so difficult.
Anyone else experienced this or have any advice?
Thanks

You should ask your GP about taking low dose Aspirin next time you get pregnant. It is one of the things they recommend for women who experience recurrent miscarriages.

I've had two miscarriages, one straight forward and the second horrendously traumatic. I had a retrograde haemorrhage, so bled backwards into my abdomen and needed emergency surgery.

I genuinely believed it would never be me, my best friend was pregnant and we would have been due 14 days apart. Initially it was so difficult, and unless you've been through it no one knows how the pain is crushing, it takes over everything in your life. The only advice I can give is allow yourself to be sad, cry it out when u need to, keeping it bottled up doesn't help.

I'm just sat eating my tea in silence so as not to wake my 10 week old DD.

Keep positive OP, you never know what is round the corner.

Thanks for sharing
@maremaremare I actually went to see a fertility expert a week or so ago and mentioned the various things I had read online like aspirin but he said there was no scientific facts to support it and so he wasn't advising it. He did however write me a prescription for Crinone gel which he said if I got pregnant again to start using.

@freakedout89 that sounds like an awful experience. I am so sorry you had to go through the that. Your so right about people around you getting pregnant - my next door neighbour and friend announced they were pregnant recently both on the same day. It's like everywhere you turn all your friends and or work colleagues are getting pregnant.

Any advice in terms of your period cycles? I just don't know why were aren't getting pregnant again even though we've been using ovulation sticks too.

So sorry to hear about your miscarriages, makes it so much harder when everyone around you seems to be having precious babies with such ease. I had 3 miscarriages in two years at 15, 9 and 10 weeks and fell into real despair. However I went on to have three healthy children and no further problems - I was given low dose aspirin and progesterone pessaries despite a cause never being found. My children are now 17, 15 and 12. There absolutely is hope and most people go on to have successful pregnancies with no cause or reason found for the miscarriages. Try to remain positive but be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve for your loss. Take care

Thank you so much.

6mc
Now one beautiful baby I never thought would happen :)

Ps So sorry for ur loss x

I don't have a positive story yet but hoping I will have soon. I've had 2 consecutive miscarriages 7 weeks and 20 weeks. I'm planning to ttc in the next few months.
Hope you don't mind me commenting but I'm so scared about ttc so also looking for positive stories.

3 early and 1 devastating late miscarriage - now have two beautiful DS. Do make sure your hospital does tests, find out about the latest research and treatments (Google, Google, Google!), ask to be referred to other hospitals if your local one isn’t up to speed and don’t let your GP or consultant fob you off. Miscarriages are common, yes, but 2, 3, 4 less so. I second the aspirin advice but start it early before TTC. It also took progesterone, tinzaparin, vit d and nerves of steel for me to get my second rainbow. No idea which thing did it but I decided to take the kitchen-sink approach. Hang in there. It will happen.

I feel your pain OP, I really do. I've been there myself. After 3 losses in 3 yrs trying for No.2, I was referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic where it was discovered I had undiagnosed Coeliac disease and consequently a Vit D deficiency. I went gluten free and 8 wks later I was pregnant. No.2 came earlier this year. Hang on in there.

I know how you feel I’ve had 3 miscarriages in the last 18 months (no successes) 2 happened naturally at 7 and 9 weeks and 1 was a MMC at 12 weeks but baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I’ve been through a recurrent miscarriage referral with a specialist but no reasons have come to light. I’m now on 75mg daily aspirin and currently 11w+5 days (hopefully) had a reassurance scan at 10w which showed a heartbeat and no bleeding so far (fingers crossed) I’m still petrified of attending the 12 week scan on Friday though I’m so down about constantly worrying and not being able to enjoy pregnancy. Everyone I know seems to get pregnant 1st try and sail through it’s so frustrating xx

I’m sorry to read these stories but also happy to read of all the rainbows.
After 2 successful pregnancies, I had 2 consecutive miscarriages - one early at about 10 weeks and one late miscarriage at 18 weeks. They both completely knocked me for 6. Our B (18 weeks) was due 4 days after a friend of mine and that was hard. But we went on to have a rainbow afterwards who is now 5 and really is the light in our darkness.

So sorry to hear this. I had 3 miscarriages, I started taking low dose aspirin after the second. The turning point for me was an amazing consultant who prescribed progesterone, he did a lot of IVF and it is quite common to prescribe it in those pregnancies to keep them going. Had Dd1, ttc again and new consultant prescribed lower dose progesterone. I miscarried. Next pregnancy I found my old consultant and got the high dose again. Dd2 was the result of this. Take care of yourself....

I also second low dose aspirin took it with my rainbow pregnancy. Have no idea of it was coincidence or not but would take it again if we were going to have any more babies.

Do you take baby aspirin every day when ttc or when you found out you where expecting (or both?)

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