Anembryonic pregnancy

[Helbelle75]

I went for my 12 weeks scan on Monday at 12+1 to be told that there was no baby, just a sac. I had an inkling something was wrong, as l had a small bleed on Saturday, but this has really shocked me and I feel angry and cheated.
I had a mmc in 2016, then our daughter came along in 2017. This would have been our much longed for 2nd child, but I feel I can't even grieve, as there's not even a baby there to grieve for.
Now waiting for the miscarriage to happen and dreading it. It was so awful last time, I bled a lot and it was incredibly painful.
Not sure why I feel the need to post this really I suppose just looking for other people's experiences.

Ttc is a bloody tough business. I have mc at 9 weeks and had a few chemicals also. Hard and miserable but somehow moving on is needed ASAP imo /e.

I had a good sob on the day and told dh I didn't want to mention it again.
Worked for me but may not be everyone's approach.

I'm so sorry for your loss. And it is a loss - you were thinking about the baby, who it might be, progressing through pregnancy. Just because there was a sac and no baby doesn't make it any easier to deal with or make your grieving any less valid. I had a mmc at 7.5 weeks and it was the same for me - I also felt confused about how to grieve for something that wasn't really there. I did allow myself to feel everything though - it helped that my husband was very upset too so we could share it. I also found the miscarriage extremely painful given how early it was. Have you considered surgical management instead perhaps? I think I would choose this if it ever happened again. I hope you are ok - not hugely comforting from a stranger on the internet, but I know how you are feeling right now.

Thank you for replying both of you and sorry for your losses.
After my first mmc I had to have counselling as i was so devastated. I am older and thought it was my only chance of a baby. Fortunately we were blessed with our daughter.
I am just trying to get on with life normally and hoping that we have another chance.
I prefer somethings to happen naturally, but will opt for intervention if nothing's happened by the weekend.
Ttc is blooming cruel at times isn't it.

It really is. Hope it isn't too painful both physically and emotionally for you this time around. I'm sorry you are going through it. I did find MN a great source of support when I had mine.