MMC at 16 wks - worried about due date sadness

[flashz]

Missed miscarriage picked up at routine appointment. I am waiting to be induced tomorrow. Alongside bursting into fits of tears my main worry is how I will cope on what would have been the due date. I usually hate December to March with a passion and I was due in early January. I was so looking forward to Christmas this year but now I'm terrified I won't get through the cruel dark and cold nights. I'm so scared...

I feel the same after a missed miscarriage - was due December 3rd and imagined spending Christmas with my new baby - we also found out close friends are now due in January and I feel so sad. We’ve started trying again and I’d love to be pregnant by my due date, but for some reason I don’t feel optimistic. It’s shit, but you are definitely not alone, hopefully someone will be along with some more people arrival advice soon x

I've spent the day cleaning and crying. They gave me a pill yesterday. I no longer feel pregnant. I have to go into hospital tomorrow to give birth to something that's not alive. I am dreading it.

so sorry for your loss xx

I'm so sorry for your loss @flashz. It's a really sad and difficult time and I hope you have support around you. Nothing I cam say to you right now will make you feel better as it's so raw at the moment and will be for a while - I'm still a total mess and had a natural mc last week Monday after finding out at a scan the Tuesday before baby had died.

Just wanted to send you a hand hold and say I also share your worry, I was also due im January and was so looking forward to the excitement this winter of having our first baby.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this I unfortunately suffered two miscarriages although earlier that you. My friend told me that my two babies will always be with me and never forgotten at that moment when the strip turned pink I was a mother and that seemed to help me. I don't think I will ever get over my miscarriages but have learnt to move forward. I have a beautiful little boy my third pregnancy. all you can do is give yourself time and grieve. There is no right way to do this.

Im so sorry for your loss xx
My baby died post 12 weeks. Awful terrible shock esp when you should be in the “safer” period.
I hope your induction goes to plan and gives you some peace,i cant imagine how difficult a prospect it must be x
My due date.. im dreading xx
large teary snotty hug to you, cry as much as you need to, hide from the world for a bit, look after yourself and take time to get back to “normal” xx

Thank you so much for your kind messages.
I'm currently in hospital attempting to 'recover' from the procedure after the placenta refused to come out.
I have no idea what 'normal' is anymore let alone how I'm going to get back to it.
I'll never forget the sight of my nearly 15 week baby. Tiny face, limbs, fingers and toes all perfect.