Help me support my DFriend

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She's at our local hospital and has just been told her lack of movement concerns were correct.

Her little girl has no heartbeat at 21 weeks and 5 days.

It's not really been made clear what the next steps are, apart from induction which is starting today.

It's myself and her DH that are here for support.

They don't even live locally. They came to visit me.

Will she get to see the baby?

Can she have a funeral, or is the baby too early in gestation for that?

We've got lots of questions and I don't want to ask a FB group where lots of people know us

Oh gosh, that’s absolutely awful! It’s lovely that you’re here for her though.

Whilst I can’t say for certain with your friends situation, from my experience I think she’ll be given the option and will be able to make the right decisions for her.

I had an early miscarriage 8+3 but discovered at 12+1, and was given the options to see the foetus after my surgery, and I could take responsibility for the remains, everything was dealt with sensitively and my wishes were respected throughout.

I was told where the remains would be cremated and where the ashes would be scattered in a garden of remembrance as I gave the hospital responsibility for them.

The staff were there for my husband as much as they were for me. They gave us plenty of opportunities to ask questions and I’m sure they will give you any advice and answer any questions you may have.

I wish you all the best at this truly horrible time.

I am so sorry for the loss of your friends baby.

I lost my daughter during delivery at 20+2. I got to see my girl, she stayed in with me for a few hours. We also got hand and footprints done and the hospital sent in a photographer who took some photos.
The hospital offered for her to be cremated and for her ashes to be scattered in the garden of remembrance but I opted for a private service which I arranged through my local funeral director.