What will “active management” entail?

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I’m so sorry if this is triggering to anyone here.

I’ve just found out at 12 weeks that our baby doesn’t have a heart beat. I have had light bleeding/spotting which prompted a scan confirming that. That small amount of bleeding has now stopped and HCP said I needed to go back for another scan this week to confirm that the pregnancy had ended and if miscarriage hasn’t happened naturally they will offer “management” of it. Now I was too emotional at the time to ask more detail of what that meant.

Could anyone advise? I don’t like being in the unknown about things and I don’t dare google.

Hi, I’m so sorry for your loss.

I’m sure posters with more experience of this will be along soon - I had news of my MMC on Thursday so this is all very new to me - but you should have the choice of either medical management or surgical management.

Medical management will involve being given tablets to start the process naturally in a few hours and then it will either happen at home or in hospital. Surgical management will involve being put under general anaesthetic and they will remove everything that needs to be removed while you’re asleep.

I read pretty much all of this thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/1344311-Tips-for-coping-with-the-practicalities-of-miscarriage before making my decision - it’s hard reading but I felt a lot more informed and prepared after doing so. I am booked in for surgical management on Monday.

Good luck and I’m sorry again. It’s so unbelievably hard.

So sorry for your loss.

No advice about active management. My own experience was that I waited at home for nature to take its course (I couldn't take the pills due to BF a toddler) and after two weeks of nothing, I haemorrhaged enough to need to be blue-lighted in for scraping out.

The haemorrhage apparently isn't the norm, but is something to be aware of. If you feel dizzy, don't hesitate to call the hospital or 999.

Please do make sure you grieve properly