Life After Miscarriage- Advice

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Im finding it so difficult after my miscarriage.
After my scan on Monday due to bleeding i started passing the pregnancy and it was horrendous.
I was supposed to be going tomorrow to pass the pregnancy but, now I will be having a scan to check everything is out and it breaks my heart going for another scan knowing that they are looking to see that my womb is empty rather than to see my baby.
The thought of even sitting there in the waiting room with women who are pregnant whilst I am going to be waiting to check that everything is out is just upsetting me so much.
I can feel OK at times and then it just hits me again, I woke up this morning excited for a moment then I remembered that I dont have a baby to look forward to anymore.
I feel so selfish too because I already have a 6 year old and I know so may women have been through worse situations than me!
I just really need to talk to somebody because I am not coping well at all

So sorry to hear. I was in your position in April so I know exactly what you're going through. I remember crying every five minutes then as the days went on the pain lessened and I could start coming to terms with what happened. I kept telling myself that in a few months time I would feel better. And I did. I found getting up and doing the garden helped, something physical whilst my brain processed everything (as I was getting stuck in bed which was making me feel worse). It will get easier but give yourself time.

If you feel you're not coping and need someone to talk to the miscarriage association has a helpline and a lot of reassuring advice on their website. Also speak to your epu- they should also have information to help you cope during this difficult time.

Lots of love xx

So sorry for your loss- I miscarried last week it's heartbreaking

It might be worth asking the nurses if there is another room you can wait in if the general waiting room is too much, I sat in another room after my first scan- i couldn't bare sitting with all the other pregnant ladies

Xx

I sat in the waiting room saw the Nurse and she said it isn't appropriate I'm finding you a side room which I was so grateful for. I'd ask them if there is another room.
Sending you well wishes.

Sorry for your loss OP

When I had my miscarriage (actually a mmc) I was seen through the early pregnancy unit which was nothing to do with the antenatal clinic, so no visibly pregnant women there. I went twice, the first time there were two of us sat there, the second, I was the only one waiting.

Your feelings are completely valid, it doesn’t matter that other people have been through worse things, what you are going through is awful and it is completely normal to be upset, scared, worried, not coping. Do not feel selfish for feeling the way you do, it is completely normal to grieve for the baby you have lost.

Thank you everybody for your responses, they really help xx