Advice? Any happy successful babies born after three miscarriages?

[Minnie89]

Today, I’m currently encountering my third miscarriage in a year.

I’m so heartbroken. There’s no explanation as to why. I’ve been poked and prodded so much this week. I don’t understand why I can’t seem to carry longer than 6 weeks? I’m doing all the things I’m supposed to. Myself and my partner are mentally and physically drained.

I was told by the doc, the last time, that they don’t see why I wouldn’t have a healthy pregnancy next time around, so automatically I was excited this pregnancy and put miscarriage to the back of my mind.

Has anyone had multiple miscarriages and been able to carry full term? I’d love to hear some happy stories if anyone has one? I’m just looking for some hope

Six that I'm aware of - after two early loses around 6 weeks I stopped taking tests till I'd missed two periods. They ranged between 6-24 weeks, all unexplained, though attributed to my endometriosis.

With DS I was petrified. I bled constantly and heavily, but he hung on in there. I remember being in the hospital overnight and pleading with him to hold on, that I didn't think I could survive another miscarriage. So he hung on till 42 weeks I still can't believe my luck now.

I'd get second opinions, just to be 110% sure there isn't a 'reason'. And talk to those you trust to support you, I really isolated myself during all of mine, and I don't think it was good for me.

I am so sorry you are experiencing this loss.

If it gives you hope, I had 3 mmc all at 11 weeks, (1 each year consecutively). Now the 4th year I am now pregnant and 21 weeks. I am a fairly old mum too 😊 I haven’t done anything different.

Good luck and look after yourself.

So sorry you're going through this, just another positive one for you- I have a 14 year old from previous relationship, then started ttc with Dh 4 years ago, had 5 early miscarriages in a row, we made the decision to stop trying as I didn't feel I could keep losing my babies and I was nearly 40 at this point. Then I found out I was 4 weeks pregnant, I now have a 8 month old.

I asked to be referred after the third miscarriage, no one mentioned it so do ask. We never got any answers for ours, they couldn't find any reason which was hard at the time as I wanted a medical reason that could be worked on, but there wasn't one. It's so hard and every pregnancy was so scary- I didn't breathe out until I had my baby in front of me, but somethings these things just happen. I hope it happens for you, best of luck

Another positive story for you. I had three miscarriages. I went privately to a Consultant who suggested baby aspirin as it was worth a try and it wouldn't do any harm. He suggested starting it that day and to take it until 12 weeks of a pregnancy. This was 24 years ago. I now have DS's aged 23 and 20. So sorry that you have gone through this it is heartbreaking.

Another one here - 3 mcs in 2016/2017 (I was 29/30), all before 6 weeks. NHS said nothing wrong, but I saw a private consultant who prescribed steroids and progesterone (aspirin made me spot so stopped that after a few weeks) and I had my beautiful baby boy 12 weeks ago. Good luck to all of you.

Same as others.

I had two mc, did some reading on things that might help but wouldn’t hurt and started taking vitamin D, extra folic acid and baby aspirin.

He stayed out until 42 weeks. Was induced, he still wasn’t coming so had to have a c section. All the chats is had with him about staying out clearly worked too well

A word of caution though, I
Lost a lot of blood and wonder if I should have stopped the aspirin a bit earlier. This time will check with midwives.

All the best to you

So sorry that so many of you have felt this pain. I've had 2 mc now one been mmc (6/7 weeks and 13weeks) looking to get pregnant as soon as my cycle decides to play ball. When do you start taking aspirin? When you find out you're pregnant or what... and when do you stop? Thankyou xx

I had one healthy pregnancy, then three miscarriages, then my last healthy pregnancy and sadly a termination for medical reasons at 42.

For me I’m pretty sure it was just age. One of the babies I naturally miscarried before my second son was born had Downs.

Saying that I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic and I did end up in Clexane, progesterone and aspirin. I honestly don’t know if any of that really helped, I suspect the pregnancy would have been fine regardless because the egg (very luckily) was a good one.

Good luck xx

I haven't read the whole thread. OP, your post brings so many sad memories...

3 miscarriages after difficulties conceiving each of the three pregnancies; so it took me a year to conceive the first and then around 8 months for each of the other two pregnancies. My miscarriages were all quite early, mercifully. They broke my heart every single time.

I was referred to the recurrent miscarriage unit in my city and they were wonderful. I was given low dose Clomid to aid implantation and next time I got pregnant, things went well (but I'm not sure the Clomid helped that much). I had just turned 36 when I had my beautiful boy.

After him, I had another very early miscarriage and then got pregnant with my lovely girl, who was born when I was 38 (no medical intervention). I was so overjoyed at having two children when I thought I would probably never had children. And then... guess what. I got pregnant accidentally!!! For the life of me, I don't know how it happened. I took the test because I had one lying around and I could not believe my eyes. It was a very uneventful pregnancy and there I was, a very proud mother of 3 (3!!!!) aged 40.

I hope this helps xxx

So lovely to read great success stories on here. Incredibly sorry for your losses OP and everyone else who’s been through this.

I’m still trying to get my happy ending, in the early weeks now of my 6th pregnancy under my local recurrent miscarriage clinic.

For anyone who’s been through recurrent losses and is still ttc, there’s a wonderful thread in conception which you might find helpful. Between us we cover most reasons and experiences and I find the support is amazing. Nothing like talking to people who really know what you’re going through when I don’t know anyone in rl who can really understand. Head over for a chat if you’re ttc or going to be again.

Thank you for all your responses ❤️

I have a referral for tests so fingers crossed I get some answers 🤞🏾

I hope we all get to hear more happy stories!

Thank you all for sharing and showing support xxx

I had three miscarriages before my first child. Despite many tests, no reason could be found. When I did get pregnant with my DS1, I was given progesterone, and again when I was pregnant with DD. I did have one more miscarriage after my DD, but they had suspected from 6 weeks that the baby was incompatible with life, so I was not given progesterone and later tests confirmed that their hunches were correct.

After the fourth loss, I went on to have DS2 and DS3. Again, I was given progesterone in the first trimester. My family is now complete and I am sure it is down to progesterone. Am quite superstitious about it, actually!

Hugs to you all, and be kind to yourselves.

I hope your appointment sheds some light on your miscarriages and I’m so sorry for your losses.

I had three miscarriages before having DD who is five months old now. I struggled to get pregnant too, so it took almost 5 years ttc to have a baby and two of my miscarriages were after IVF cycles. I had an early miscarriage and then two at 10 weeks after seeing a heartbeat and all looking well at 8 weeks.

I was finally diagnosed with blood clotting and immmune issues after private testing, which was much more in-depth than NHS testing. Aspirin was the miracle for me - I conceived naturally twice after taking 75mg per day. Then I was prescribed Clexane throughout pregnancy and was able to carry to term. I was also given high dose folic acid and progesterone and did intralipid infusions in the first few weeks.

Even in my successful pregnancy I had five weeks of bleeding from 7-11 weeks. It was such a scary time, and even now I can’t quite believe I have a baby after all the pain and heartache.