Heavy bleeding and cramps, 5 weeks pregnant

[LK76]

This is he first time I’ve posted here, I’m 42 and my girlfriend and I have recently gone brought IVF. She donated her eggs to me, and a 5 day blastocyst was transferred in June 13th.
We had a faint positive result last Friday, and hcg was only 20, but after a difficult weekend the numbers had jumped to 68 on Monday. A further test on Wednesday was 168 so all was looking good.
All day Friday I had what felt like mild period cramps which continued yesterday until at 3pm I had a huge bleed. Sorry for tmi but I went to the loo and it gushed out quickly. This continued for an hour or so, as did the cramps. I passed a blood clot at about 5pm and after that it settled a bit. The bleeding stopped around 9 and I was able to sleep.
Today I woke up with no pain or bleeding but the. The cramps came back and I started spotting again. Nothing as bad as yesterday but I am still losing a little blood at every loo visit.
We are going to clinic tomorrow for an hcg test, I guess I just want to know if anyone else experienced this?
Obviously my first thought is that my baby has gone but I’ve seen a few posts about bleeding in pregnancy so I’m very confused as to whether this could be normal?
My heart is broken right now, I really hope someone has some advice for me. Thanks, in advance

So sorry to read about all you've gone through, especially after the stress and expense of IVF. I really hope you get a positive result at the clinic tomorrow.

I haven't experienced what you did. I'm also in a same sex relationship and miscarried after fertility treatment, I didn't have any unexpected bleeding though - it was a silent miscarriage.

Sorry to hear that @TinyPaws, it's devastating isn't it. I'm clinging onto the hope that it's something else but also preparing for bad news.
can I ask how far into the pregnancy you were?

I was 10 weeks when I actually passed the pregnancy but the embryo only measured 6 weeks and the sac measured 8 weeks.

I think all you can do in the situation is to hope for the best and prepare for the worse. And to support and be supported by your partner - it must be a really tough time for both of you.

Hey @LK76 I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've lost 4 pregnancies between 4-8 weeks (conceived naturally). They all had different amounts of bleeding / cramping. Also, one was ectopic so my hormones continued to climb.

However, I have a few friends who had bleeding at around 3-4 weeks and they've went on to have successful pregnancies. One friend bled for the first 15 weeks (she conceived through IVF) and has a beautiful boy.

The biggest thing I've learned is just how frustrating it is to wait for answers.

I know this response won't alleviate your anxiety but I maybe it will reassure you that there is hope. Wishing you all the best x

Thank you for your replies. And I'm truly sorry for your losses. Even though nothing is confirmed yet I do know the devastating feelings you've been through.

The clinic have asked me to come in for a scan at 3pm rather than the blood test I thought we were having. She said there are lots of reasons why women bleed in pregnancy so I have a vague hope that it could be something else now. Fingers crossed.

@LK76 Hope you are ok and had good news yesterday. x

@LK76 I hope you're well. I was thinking about you earlier and hope everything went ok yesterday.

Thanks for checking in @TinyPaws @Bobzybaby. Unfortunately tests confirmed the worst and I lost my baby on Saturday. Feel absolutely gutted and helpless but will pick myself up again in time. Thanks for your advice this week, it really helped me xx

I'm so sorry you and your partner list your baby. It's a horrible thing to have to go through. Go real easy on yourself and take all the time you need. x

@LK76 I'm so sorry to hear your news, it's just awful going through a loss. Please take it easy. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself the time to grieve. Xx