Pregnant after miscarriage, how to stop worrying?!

[CobaltRose]

Hi everyone.

My first pregnancy sadly ended in a missed miscarriage and subsequent ERPC back in April. I was 12 weeks and it was utterly heartbreaking.

On Tuesday I discovered that I was pregnant again. It's very early days (I was only 9DPO when I found out) but we are both ecstatic.

However, I must admit that having a previous loss has taken some of the joy out of this pregnancy and I'm constantly worrying about having another miscarriage. Every ache or twinge I'm worrying, every time I go to the loo I'm checking for blood. AF is due on Saturday and for some reason I panic that she will turn up, even though she obviously won't!

I am so so happy that I'm pregnant again, but also so scared

Has anyone else had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage? Really needing a hand hold right now

I’m so sorry for your loss @cobaltrose, I had a MC in April too and am also pregnant (5+4) and am feeling just as anxious as you, dreading my first scan. My mum suffered from a miscarriage at about 10 weeks about 12 years ago and had 2 very healthy babies after her MC.

Unfortunately it’s an anxious waiting game at the moment, be kind to yourself and try and do lots of lovely little things that’ll distract you (if that helps you of course, and it’s easier said than done) and try not to bottle up your feelings, share them with your DP.

big hugs...

I had a previous miscarriage and then got pregnant the following month = you just dont stop worrying!!

I had a little scare today - im 6.5 weeks - but ive been told to take it easy...do exactly that - take it easy

no lifting, carrying heavy things - dont stress (if at all possible)!

Good luck xx

Hi everyone. I’m glad to see that you were all able to get pregnant after the mmc. I’m currently on day 5 of my mmc at 12 weeks with light bleeding and no heartbeat found. I’m just destroyed. Only thing getting me through is the thought of trying again as soon as possible. Midwife told me not to try before two periods. Hospital said wait for first period then start trying. Just curious how long did you all wait? I’m ready to start again so soon as the bleeding stops. Thought of being pregnant again is the only thing getting me up and out of bed. Appreciate any stories of advice on this one as this was my first pregnancy. Thanks!

I used to find taking it a day at a time helped. Each day I used to think ‘today I’m pregnant’ and I used to celebrate that in my mind. I also used to set myself little milestones to get to. Past the point where I had the miscarriages, past 12 weeks, then 20 weeks, then at the point of ‘viability’ (I think that’s 24 weeks?) then 28, 30 and so on. I used to dread going to the loo and became obsessed with looking for blood every time I went to the loo and in the end I wouldn’t allow myself to look. I wore panty liners almost every day because I had a lot of DC but so I could throw them away and not worry about obsessing over blood. In the early days of my pregnancy with my second child by the way I did spot brown blood and this turned out to be implantation bleeding. People say it’s rare but it does happen. Try not to worry and enjoy each day as it comes

I don't think there's a thing on earth that makes the worry and anxiety any better! It's a case of head down and get on with it. I'm 8 weeks pregnant after an MMC and molar pregnancy in December, took me about 3 months to get pregnant again. I had a scan Friday and was sure I'd feel relieved but I feel anything but! The foetus measures smaller than I thought by just over a week so despite their reassurances I'm convinced this won't end well. I actually find being at work the best thing, I'm so busy I don't even get chance to think about it. I initially didn't tell anyone and felt like I'd jinx things if I did but actually now have told the in-laws and my sister and actually, that really helped, just being able to share the worry. Fingers crossed for all of you, maybe a nice distracting holiday should be on the cards for all of us!