Struggling, upsetting dreams.

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Found out last Monday that our baby had died at 9+3 (was meant to be 10+3) after being referred to EPU after some minor spotting. I half expected it but OH was absolutely shell shocked and heartbroken.

I’ve had some VERY unsupportive comments off certain family members and been absolutely beside myself.

I’m only 25 and this is my 3rd M/C with a healthy DD in between the first and second M/C.

I had a D&C on Thursday and as soon as I came round from the op I felt great! The next day I felt great too but then the day after that, it all came crashing down. I don’t think I’ve ever felt so low. I was having erratic thoughts and actually really scaring myself. I hate feeling like this and am usually resilient and back to normal ASAP but not this time. Everything feels surreal, everyone’s carrying on as normal and I feel as though I’m just existing.

I’ve been having dreams where I can hear my baby screaming and crying but can’t get to him/her. I’m frantically rushing around the house from room to room but I can’t find the baby.

I know I’m not the first woman to experience this and devastatingly, I won’t be the last. Just can’t believe how hard this has hit me.

I'm so sorry for what you're going through, I'm 23 and currently going through my 4th miscarrige myself. Had one in 2011, then 2012 and then 2016,then had my daughter in 2017 and now just had a miscarrige at 12 weeks and 5 days. I understand what you mean about not bouncing back and being okay straight away because I felt okay after all the other ones but with this one I'm utterly broken. If you need to talk to someone you can email me on [email protected] if you want to. Sending hugs xxx

@EllieRosesMammy I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine getting to 12 weeks and then losing. Just when you start to think you’re safe. So sorry this has happened to you so many times, are they offering to do some tests to find out why? I haven't had 3 consecutively so they wont run and tests and have put it down to bad luck. We want to try again but I don’t know if I could bear for this to happen again before me might, possibly get some answers.

Just found out this morning that a lot of children at DD’s school have had slapped cheek.

Thank you, I was due my first scan on Wednesday when I would of been 13 weeks and 2 days so I'm absolutely gutted. They've asked me to come back tomorrow at 3pm so they can scan me just to make sure all of the pregnancy has passed, the midwives are confused why I've been asked to come back as they have said they would usually just ask me to repeat a pregnancy test in 3 weeks but the doctor who saw me insisted apparently so now I'm wondering what's going on.

The three miscarriges I had before were very early on (7 weeks, 4 weeks and 5 weeks) so I never really pushed for an investigation. Then I had a healthy daughter in December so I assumed my body must of been done with miscarrying, but now with this being quite far along I'm going to ask to be referred to gyno. Apparently 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarrige and its not uncommon for some women to have several miscarriges plus healthy babies, just life I guess. I hope you're feeling better today, ignore anyone making nasty comments some people are just awful xx