2 miscarriages. Please give advice lots of issues!

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I had my first miscarriage in January at 6 weeks which was very difficult but I managed to deal with just kind of shrugged it off and though it was just a hiccup and next time would be different. I found out I was pregnant again in March and was very anxious. I lost my Dad last month so was feeling this baby was a sign of hope and would help all my family get through the loss of my dad and through Christmas (baby was due on 22nd) I went for my 12 week scan last Thursday at 13weeks and was told the baby had died at 9 weeks. I went to hospital on Tuesday this week I opted for surgical management so took my tablets as instructed on the way to hospital ready for surgery but the hospital left me sat that long after the tablets they gave me, i lost a hell of alot of blood, baby and lots of clots it was very traumatising and undignified with doctors prodding and pulling at my insides! So it pretty much ended up been medical. I feel very lost and broken and am petrified to ever try again bit my main concern is I've stopped bleeding? 2 days after taking the tablets i lost alot more blood when I miscarried at 6 weeks just scared I'm going to get an infection or have to have surgery anyway. They haven't booked any follow up care or anything so feel very alone. I was also told I was rhesus negative and there was a chance that's why my second loss happened so I'm very confused about my chances of ever having a healthy pregnancy. Any words of support or advice would be much appreciated x

On my second mc the doctor said that if I bleed longer or it was more painful than I could bear to come in. But mine all happened naturally. Stopping bleeding after passing baby and sac after a few days sounds normal, especially if it was heavy. Probably shed all at once. But if you're concerned, get another app.
As for being rhs neg, (I am too and have been reading up in it after my second mc)
If your dp is negative too it won't cause a problem and as far as I understand it, because your first didn't get to the point of plecenta implementation, there could be no blood transferred and so no chance to create the anti bodies.
Hope that helps xx

Thankyou @Emmafh3 that makes sense especially the rhesus negative bit! My midwife tried to reassure me but I just didn't believe her to be honest. Going to see how I am this weekend just dont feel right at all and have a gut feeling also getting some pain when touching my stomach/stretching and sore ovary. Just confused. They said I had a very thick lining but that was expected. Will that pass or cling on until next period? Xx

Theoretically, it should pass before your next period, it obviously sheds during the period and then builds up again before Ovulation. So maybe you'll bleed again? I'm really not sure. That's just my basic working knowledge of the menstrual cycle....
I'm not sure if the pain is normal, mine were pretty pain free thankfully, but it's understandable as it's a traumatic thing to go through, especially if the pills forced it and you lost lots of blood. But always go with your gut feeling! Hopefully everything is as well as it can be

Just thought I'd do a test obv expecting a blazing positive as it's only been one week and I should of been over 14 weeks and it's negative! Never thought I'd be so pleased to see a negative test!! Fingers crossed for no issues and a happier future! I saw on another thread you were expecting again after loss congratulations really hope all goes well xx

Haha I'm all over the place on here- too hot to do anything but sit on my phone while the babe naps!
But yes thank you! So glad your hormones are down and you're able to start looking to the future! Best of luck to you! Hope to see a positive soon for you!