Confirmed miscarriage today

[patphelan]

I'm heartbroken.

I started bleeding on Friday and it's been an anxious 48 hours but hcg levels have dropped dramatically.

I only found out last week, I was about 10 weeks on. My whole future had changed and then changed again in the space of 7 days.

I'm really hurt and what makes it even harder is my family, instead of being supportive, have decided it was for the best and 'I wouldn't have coped anwyay'

My grandmother's words (when I had to drop dd1 off at her house before I went to hospital on Friday) - "I hope it continues bleeding for goodness sake what are you thinking of?" are stinging my ears and I can't stop crying. It was so unexpected it hurt.

I don't know what to do. I have 2 dds (9&5) but I so wanted this baby. It was going to be my last, my third wee one and family complete. DP doesn't know what to do I don't even know what I want him to do.

Sorry I'm rambling, I just need to.

Op I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope your Dh and friends are able to support you properly.
I’m so sorry for your grandmothers cruel words try and put them out of your mind if you can.
Give yourselves time to grieve and please be kind to yourself op 💐

I'm so very sorry to read this. Simply deadful, and your grandmother's words must have been so traumatic to hear on top of everything. With respect, she is completely wrong and, as the previous poster has said, try to put her words out of your mind. Be kind to yourself - cry, sleep and grieve as much as you need to. It's by no means the end, it's a stumble, an unexpected twist in the story. Sending you good vibes. 💐

I'm so sorry. How incredibly difficult for you. Your grandmother was incredibly unkind and thoughtless. I'm sure you have responses running through your head.... wishing you lots of strength for coping xxxx