Hi all,
I've just recently had my fourth recurrent miscarriage.
I had to have an internal scan at 6 weeks due to my previous miscarriages and my health.
I had to go back to the EPU every 2 weeks to have an internal exam to make sure the pregnancy was progressing and it was.
At 10 weeks pregnant I had my next appointment and unfortunately they found no heartbeat. They explained that I would need to return in another two weeks to make 100% sure there was no heartbeat. We were devastated.
At this appointment they confirmed there was no heartbeat. They explained that The baby was too small and because of this the doctor could not class it as a failed pregnancy. I would need to return in another two weeks, but I could miscarry naturally before this appointment.
I did not miscarry naturally and went to my appointment two weeks later for another examination. Unfortunately the midwife explained that the baby was still too small and the doctor again would not class it as a failed pregnancy. They explained that if I had not started to miscarry by my next appointment I would be given the choice to have the pill, a procedure or miscarry naturally.
By this time I was very distressed with the fact that I could not try and move on.
A week later I did start to bleed. I hoped by my next appointment that I would have passed everything and then I could try and pick myself back up again.
Unfortunately I had not passed everything and because I had only 20%ish left and it was making its way down my uterus that they did not want to give me the procedure. I didn't really want to have the procedure if I really didn't want to, so as advised was given another appointment in two weeks to make sure everything had passed.
At my next appointment I truly thought everything had passed as I experienced heavy bleeding and clots.
Once again I was told the upsetting news that I had not passed everything. It had now passed through my uterus and was in my cervix. I was told it was quiet a bit of blood and a big clot.
The midwife gave me another appointment in two weeks (which is next week). The midwives and the radiologists were very sympathetic with how long it is taking and how many appointments I've had. They have all been extremely nice.
It's now been 4/5 weeks that I've been bleeding. It's extremely difficult to try and move on when I'm visiting the EPU every few weeks and still miscarrying.
I haven't experienced a miscarriage similar to this one before. My last 3 were 8 weeks and under and they all happened very fast. By the time I went to the EPU a few days later they have all passed.
Myself and my husband have been extremely anxious when I've been pregnant due to the miscarriages previously had. We've been extremely happy, but at the same time have not gotten our hopes up.
I feel like this miscarriage has knocked me for six and I know that I'm going to be even more scared the next time I conceive, because this experience has been the worse. We will definitely try again and we will never give up hope, but this experience has devastated us both.
It has now been 9 weeks since I've known I was going to miscarry (due to the baby having no heartbeat) and it's so upsetting.
Has anyone any advice, or similar experiences. This miscarriage has taken a long time to pass and it's taken it's toll.
Elaine xx