Miscarriage again. This is shit.

[TheFimbleFowl]

I think I just want to tell someone really. 37, and I had a miscarriage last year where it never got beyond and empty sac / fetal pole. I had a private scan at 7 weeks so knew it was going wrong but it took over a month for it to be confirmed and for the miscarriage to actually happen (and then I ended up in hospital afterwards with retained products).

So six weeks pregnant again, and another empty sac measuring 4-5 weeks. Doctors (and DP) are trying to be positive and saying it may still be ok but I had a bit of blood this morning and it seems clear which way this is going.

What do I do now? Do I just keep trying? Can’t help but feel that my eggs are probably too old and this isn’t going to work for me.

We already have kids so I’m sure won’t be entitled to ivf or similar (and I’m not complaining about that, I’m grateful for what I have). But does that mean we’re completley on our own though, and we have to either give up or keep trying and failing with no explanation?

Just feel so fucking sad. Does anyone have any success stories to give me some pathetic hope?

When did you have a positive test? I had a blighted ovum in December, it was obvious to me what was happening when I had the scan but still took ages for them to confirm.
I had one period before becoming pregnant again, had some spotting so was scanned, small sac seen, here we go again. But at my next scans things were progressing as they should have been, my first scan really was just far too early and I must have got a positive test about 7dpo (don’t know how that’s even possible) I’m 16 weeks now and so far everything is going well.
Everything crossed for you

Thanks for answering! Had a positive test on 10 May. I know the scan was early and it’s possible that I’m earlier than I thought (although I am certain of my period dates) so there’s still a small chance. Won’t be drinking or anything til it’s confirmed.

No more blood since this morning. The uncertainty is the worst part I think.

I'm really sorry; I know exactly what you mean about the uncertainty - I was certain the pregnancy I lost at 10 weeks wasn't going to end well, but it was the delay / not knowing that hurt most.
Fingers crossed that your dates are just wrong and all will end up well. The fact that you've stopped bleeding might well be a good sign; I had spotting with all three of my successful pregnancies (cervical ectropian) and the doctors were convinced this was the issue again but there was a lot of blood.
Even if you're not entitled to IVF you can still have recurrent miscarriage investigations if necessary, and other interventions/ TBH I'm not sure how effective IVF is anyway for RM.
I'll be thinking of you. Have you another scan booked?

Thank you. No, I have an appointment at the drs on Monday so will see what she says, but I suppose there’s no point asking for the EPU as they won’t be able to tell me anything new at this stage. I’ll probably go back to the private clinic week after next unless the dr suggests something different.