MMC - Do I wait?

[SophieE1987]

Sadly today my worst fear came true and after 4 days of bleeding I was told my baby had died 3 weeks ago.

I am bleeding without pain at the moment, but it's very scant and not even going onto a pad yet. I really want everything to be over quickly, but I'm also deathly scared of having a GA, I was just wondering if anyone had been in the same situation with bleeding, and how long did it take you to pass everything?

I'm so incredibly sad, but also feel horrible that my baby has died and is still inside me, I don't feel like I can grieve until it has gone.

When I mc years ago d&c was the norm. Not pleasant and hard to recover emotionally.
Mc after a scan showed no hb /growth for 2 weeks (should have been 8 weeks), passed intact sac +foetus at home alone, much better all round if I had to rate it .
Whatever you think you would cope best with.

I have dc already (was similar to actual labour but pain slightly less) and managing alone was inside my comfort zone but maybe not for everyone.
Sorry for your loss.

Hi op sorry for your loss I've just been through this. They leave it a week to try for natural miscarriage, I bled a lot but didn't pass much. I took the tablets to induce miscarriage and I bled loads but still didn't work so I ended up with the ERPC which I had yesterday it was quick smooth and I'm hardly bleeding at all now.

I would do the ERPC each time as it was just easier And more straight forward you can draw a line under it. I enjoyed the GA it made me so relaxed and I felt like I had a nice sleep and it was over. What hesitations do you have. If you look for my thread from yesterday (my ERPC journey) you can read my experience I was in and out without 5 hours

Tahnka yellow - your post was really helpful - I know it sounds silly but I’m scared of not waking up from the general anaesthetic, they say missed miscarriage is rare but it happened to me, so I feel like all the rare things are going to happen to me - I’m getting a phone call from the EPU today to make a decision, I feel so angry with my body today for not letting go

Please don't be so hard on yourself a mmc is not rare it's very very common. On the day I was in there was 5 women beside me waiting for the same operation and there would be 5 in the afternoon too and that's everyday thes do the ops their is normally a waiting list because it's so common.

Your pregnancy hormone levels haven't dropped yet and that's why the body doesn't let go. Im a few days after my op and I've still got a strong positive test and apparently that could take 3/4 weeks to disappear. It's all about the hormone levels that's all.

I hope the epu can help you more.

I’m sorry for your loss
When this happened to me the EPU told us to go home and “let nature take its course” with a leaflet
For me that’s wasn’t an option so we booked a Private D&C. I was very very well looked after and the fact that it was dealt with that same day meant I could start to try and move on much sooner. Obviously it was an awful thing to deal with and nothing can actually make the whole experience a good one but dealing with it quickly certainly helped in my case.
Even if going Private isn’t an option I would push for a quick resolution if at all possible within the NHS
To give you some encouragement though I got pg 1 week after my D&C ( totally unexpected, didn’t know it was possible) and she’s 13 now, I also have a 9 year old.
Best of luck x

I’ve booked in for the operation on Friday, will be doing paperwork tomorrow - Friday should have been my dating scan. Sigh.

I have a feeling things may happen naturally overnight, but hoping we can just hold out till Friday because I don’t want to have to deal with the pain etc.

I had a natural miscarriage in April - 3 days of light bleeding followed by one day of very heavy clots. I was taken To hospital as they were worried about the blood loss but no action was needed. I had no pain from start to finish.

I was discharged in the morning as I chose to wait for the sac to pass naturally, which it did 3 days later. Lightly Bled for maybe 2 days after

I didn’t want a d&c due to risk of scarring to the uterus.

I was supposed to be 11+3 but baby died a few weeks earlier.