Miscarriage - do I need a doctors?

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So I’m about 10wks pregnant.

My partner and I had sex 3 times but I was on the pill and taking it well. Then 2 days later when I was in another country, he broke up with me. My pill pack ran out a week later, I had a normal period (I think, it I was my first time using a mooncup so not 100% but seemed okay). That was my last pill packet and I didn’t bother to get another since we’d borken up.

However my second period didn’t arrive. I took a test and it came back positive - this made me about 6/7 weeks. I didn’t know if I wanted to keep it or not so I didn’t tell anyone or go to the doctors. Now my period has started, very heavy (at around 10 weeks). No one knows. Only my ex and my sister - neither are here, nor do I want them.

Do I have to go to a doctor or can I just wait it out? It just feels like a heavy period with lots of cramps.

I didn't want to read and run as no one has responded.

I honestly don't know the best advice I could give is to call 111 and there will be an out of hours doc they should hopefully have on shift for you to speak to .

I think you should speak to 111 at the very least.
You could retain 'products of conception' and get an infection.

Hope you get through it OK op.

Wait until you finish bleeding. Do another pregnancy test. If it's negative, it's all gone.

I've had 4 MC and always had them naturally. It's taken quite a long time (6weeks) on one occasion, but all fine.

One I was still showing 'pregnant', but when my next period came it sorted it out too.

Thank you all for your replies.

I’ll give them a call.

Surely if I am having a miscarriage I can just wait and take a test?

I’m sorry to be so dumb, but this is a complete first for me and like I said I haven’t told anyone or made up my mind what I want to do, so I don’t know how I feel right now.

Did you say you bled for 6 weeks?

I’m not entirely sure how big it is at 10 weeks. I’ve seen women saying at 12 weeks they have contractions etc? Mine just feels like a very heavy, bad period.

You should seek medical advice. There's a risk that the pregnancy wasn't viable because it's ectopic and that needs to be ruled out.

Shit, I know, when you just want it all over with

10 weeks is quite late so you may need seeing.

I really don’t want to go to the hospital, I just want this whole thing to not be happening. I know I can’t and it’s irrational of me but he’s already broken my heart over and over again this last 2 months.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.
10 weeks is quite late. I think you should see a dr or at least call 111 to ask advice. You may retain tissues and get an infection. Also not to either worry or give false hope but I bled very heavily with both of mine and they were fine. You may well need a scan to be sure what's happening.
Take care of yourself

I really don’t understand how this was even able to happen. I was on the pill. I took it well - I maybe too a couple late after he told me, but that was at least 3 days after having sex. AND I had a period. How was this even able to happen!!

My friend had 2 kids on the pill. It can happen.

You can just sit it out, BUT ideally you need a blood test to see if the pregnancy is actually viable. Bleeding doesn't always mean miscarriage.

I bled for 6 weeks after my first MC. I categorically did not want a DandC (not called that now) and opted for natural. You'll know if you're getting an infection, it will smell and you will get a temperature. It's unlikely though.

No tampons, change your towels veryregularly. Scrupulous hygiene. Be prepared for this to be in your face for a while and that is pretty tough.

Gosh, that must have been horrible for you. I’m so sorry.

Stopping using tampons now, going to buy towels. I’ll go to the doctors today. Get checked out.

I was going to give my self until week 12 to make my decision (about keeping or not) before going to a doctor. I guess someone else made the decision for me. God has an odd sense of humour.

I never thought this would happen to me.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

I had multiple miscarriages and visited the doctor with each one. It turned out I needed to be referred after my third, and it was a much quicker process because I had them on record.
Be kind to yourself

I went to the EPU with my miscarriage, just to have a scan and make sure it was progressing as it should.
The problem is, you will test positive for a while after a MC and this can be confusing.
I believe you can self refer to the EPU. I'd start there.

It might not be a miscarriage. I had a very heavy crampy bleed but kept the baby. As you are not sure if you want to keep the pregnancy I think you need to know what is happening so you probably need to see a dr. You can self refer to some early pregnancy units. This could be a good option.

If you are miscarrying I'd recommend tucking yourself up in bed for a couple of days with a good book and some painkillers.

I’m not sure what I want, no. This all happens after our break up and he moved straight into a new relationship. To be honest I’m still not convinced he believes me that I’m pregnant and thinks I’m trying to manipulate him. Ironic, since she’s the one who’s been manipulating him this whole time.

This is all just so messed up and I’m here on my own in the mess and he gets to be unaffected.

Also op even if you lose the pregnancy there will still be pregnancy hormone in tour system.

I had a loss at 15!weeks and pregnancy tests were still showing positive a month later . It takes a while for the hcg to leave your system.

Your local hospital might have an early pregnancy unit. They can scan you and let you know exactly what is happening

So sorry OP.

If it was ectopic you would know about it.

I would stay home and wait it out in the comfort of your own home. Then take a test at a later date to make sure it's all gone.
There's not much they can do when you miscarry early on.
If you aren't convinced that it's a miscarriage then I would go to A&E for them to check your levels possibly.

So sorry OP.

If it was ectopic you would know about it.

I would stay home and wait it out in the comfort of your own home. Then take a test at a later date to make sure it's all gone.
There's not much they can do when you miscarry early on.
If you aren't convinced that it's a miscarriage then I would go to A&E for them to check your levels possibly.

I missed carried at 12 weeks and was given antibiotics for any infection that could occur since the cervix is open.

As I was getting ready to go to the doctors, I had some intense pains and really large blood clots. I’m going to take an educated guess and say that this is it.

Not even sure if it’s still worth going to the doctors.

I'd still go to the doctor's . Hope things improve for you soon.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/miscarriage/what-happens/

Hope this helps, OP.

My best friend had a miscarriage around 7 weeks, went to hospital and thry tested her levels, said she was likely to have a miscarriage so sent her home to recover in her own space.
She bled for about 2-3 weeks and took a test after which was negative.
They don't usually intervene unless it's at a later stage or the test comes back as positive, there's not much they can do unfortunately.

Hope you're ok OP.