6 weeks 4 days pregnant had light bleeding is it a miscarriage

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Hi im 38 and ive had 3 miscarriages since i was 33. I havent got past 12 weeks pregnant in the past and struggled to concieve between each pregnancy. I jave underactive thyroid and my doctor thinks it is related to that condition which i was diagnosed with about 4 years ago. I was feeling okay with this pregnancy just usual breast tenderness and tiredness and some pains but not cramping so started to allow myself to get happy about the whole thing. This morning i had some bright red spotting but it was very light for the first time, i havent had it again all day. But had a brownish stain when i wipe (i know TMI!! Sorry just worried) following the red spotting my stomach started gurgling in the past thats happened before miscarriage but i havent bleed red blood like that again all day so i dont know what to think. Ive had one medical miscarriage in the past finding out at 12 week scan the baby had stopped developing and 2 natural miscarriages, the last being xmas 2017. They followed same course spotting then quickly developed into period like blood within space of a couple of hours. So on this occaison i dont know if ive experienced a normal bleed if there can ever be a normal one or if the stomach gurgling added to it is a bad sign or the brown blood. Im anxiously reading all i can on internet today stressing myself out. I have an early scan already booked next friday (due to previous miscarriages) but i dont know what to do. Can anyone give me some advice ? Also is it better to rest or move around or carry on as normal or something else for the next few days after spotting ? My partner is by my side and has supported me with cuddle and reassurance today but im still so worried and feel sad i just dont want to go through a 4th miscarriage i dont know if i can recover from the emtional pain of it again. Thank you for any advice xxx

Hi, I'm sorry I don't have any personal experience to draw from but my sil had quite a large red bleed at 14 weeks pregnant and automatically (as you would) thought miscarriage but everything was fine with the baby and the midwife /doctor had no real answer as to why she bled. He is now a healthy 3 year old but she did also end up needing a blood transfusion after losing quite a lot of blood during the birth itself. Do you have a contact number for the early pregnancy unit or ur midwife? If so I'd call them and ask if the scan can be brought forward or if you were to pop to ur local maternity unit could they do an internal exam to check for baby. I had an internal exam (baby wasn't big enough to register on tummy scan) at 6 weeks 2 days gone with my ds but for other reasons. Also a friend of mine who has lost two babies (24 wks pg and 17 weeks pg) is currently 34 weeks pregnant and has had 3 occasions of red spotting during this pregnancy with nothing sinister happening but they have offered her a scan each time for reassurance due to previous stillbirths /late miscarriages xx

I really feel for you OP it sounds like you have had an awful time ttc. It's hard to say whether it is a mc or not. I know many friends who had a bleed when pregnant and they went on to have normal pregnancies. I do believe it is common. From what I heard it is normally bright red blood that would get heavier. Really hope all is ok and wish you a healthy pregnancy

Thanks for your support both. I havent slept much tonight. I still have very slight brown blood when i go to the loo. But other then that nothing. Yes ttc has been very tough, its strange i stupidly thought when i was younger these sorts of things happen to other people, i wouldnt have a problem, i was fit and healthy but then started to feel unwell due to underactive thyroid and this has just gone on from there. Its hard to talk to family and friends about it. They either inadvertently make you feel guilty by things they say, because i must be causing it by things im doing.. they have never had a miscarriage so must be me and i can hear that when they discuss it they arent doing it intentionally to upset me but they dont understand the deep sense of guilt and blame we all feel when we have had a miscarriage. Also my friends have all had kids no problems.. its just me with all this. At times i feel cursed that i cant have a baby with my partner that i love dearly. You wouldnt think it probably reading this but iam a very positive person and always rise to any challenge in life. But you really do question the reason for your life when going through all this and it takes over everything. I wish i was a stronger person that could handle losing a baby better then me but emotionally it breaks a part of me everytime. I wish i wasnt me some days or that i could wake up one day not even wanting kids and being content with that so i dont have to keep doing this to myself. Going to try and enjoy some sunshine today and try to get it off my mind at the moment im still pregnant and hopefully it stays that way. Thank your support you really dont know what it means you feel so alone in times like this

PS the early pregnancy/ fertility unit arent open now till tuesday going to see how i feel today and decide if i want to go for a private scan tomorrow theres a clinic close to us i have the nhs scan on friday. Thanks again

It's totally normal to feel how you feel given what you've went through. There's bound to be a normal nhs maternity unit open today as babies are born on Sundays/Bank hol weekends so if you want reassurance you can always just walk into there and say what's happened and they will examine you. I went to maternity on a Saturday evenings once as I hadn't had my full amount of movements that day and they were happy to give me a scan and urine test etc xx

Yes i know i rang the general hospital when i had my last miscarriage over last christmas and they suggested i wait again i had an appointment at the hospital pregnancy clinic within a few days. My first miscarriage i went into hospital and we waited but they couldnt get me a scan that day and had to come back. If the clinic at the hospital was open they would see me today no problem im actually registered with the clinic due to my history. If im still anxious in a few hours i will go in and see what a&e can do or try for a private apppintment tomorrow thank you.

Really hope your are ok OP. I do think people can sometimes say the most ridiculous things when trying to comfort someone over a miscarriage. My SIL had one a couple of years ago. I remember others offering them what they probably thought were words of 'comfort'. I also think many people don't understand the level of grief a miscarriage can cause. I would definitely try and get an earlier scan. Hopefully just to put your mind at rest

Hey just to update you all.. had ny scan today and saw the babies heart beat it was so emotional! Im 7 weeks 5 days pregnant! They said size is right and my uterus is right size so baby is okay so far so good. Im so over the moon im under no illusions i have a long way to go but its off to the best start it can so going to stay positive from now on in and try to put the previous 3 miscarriages behind me thanks again for your support

Fantastic news stay positive wishing you a healthy pregnancy

That's fantastic news. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy

What a relief for you, congratulations xo