Missed miscarrage no heartbeat 10 weeks

[Lozza41]

Last week I thought everything was fine after one natural miscarriage in 2016 but a successful Ivf implantation this year gave me hope. After a 7 week scan showing a strong heart beat my baby showed no heartbeat at 10 weeks. Had the ERPC a few days ago. I cannot stop crying. I feel my time will never come as my age is now 42yrs. I feel I need answers.

I’m so sorry. I just wanted to send you some love and good thoughts. I can’t imagine what you must be going through.
Is there anyone for you to talk too?

@Lozza41 I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm in the process of miscarrying my ivf pregnancy. I had also seen the heartbeat then a scan at 9 weeks showed baby had died 2 days earlier. It has been an awful time since getting my BFP as I have had lots of bleeding and my HCG was up and down so it's been non stop worry. I am also feeling distraught and bleak about conceiving again.

Will the hospital do any testing to see what happened to baby? Have you been in touch with your clinic? I feel really conflicted as on one hand the thought of more IVF treatment terrifies me yet I'm also mentally trying to work out when we could possible try again

Sorry pressed send too soon. My clinic have offered me counselling which I think I will look into. Do you know if there is anything available at your clinic? I had counselling for my first miscarriage a few years ago and it definitely helped me a lot. Thinking of you

Thanks for your message. I feel so alone as no-one understands how sad you feel and unable to move on. The hospital said it would do some tests, not sure what they entail but takes a month I think to hear anything. I emailed the ivf clinic today to see if they offer a follow up consultation. To be honest there seems to be very little support available when you think about what we are going through. I really want to be positive about the future but it is so hard. Trying again is frightening too but I really want to give it a go. So sorry that you are experiencing the same loss.

Yeah sadly I don't think you get offered much support unless you ask for it. I've not felt particularly supported by the hospital but my ivf nurse has been very good at least. I still feel quite alone though, my DH is supportive but he doesn't really want to talk about it all. Have you got much support from family or friends?

I’ve found www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk a good support after a missed miscarriage and eptopic. I’m sorry for your loss x

Thanks I am seeing my ivf consultant at Hammersmith on Thursday so hope to work out what to do next. I guess the ivf journey is much longer for some than others. I just hope I still have time at 42. My mum has been looking after me but I know soon I have to get my head together, be strong and stop the what if thinking. So hard. Sometimes you just want to have some good luck in your life x