Pain, bleeding, grief after D&C - when does it end?

[roominthesky]

I had a medically managed mc 5 weeks ago that didn't work despite heavy bleeding, more heavy bleeding and pain for 2 weeks followed by spontaneous mc. Another 2 weeks of heavy loss and pain getting worse, then rushed in for emergency erpc due to what the consultant called "potentially catastrophic" haemorrhage caused by retained tissue.
A week now since surgery and I have pain, bleeding, still have high(ish) hcg and pregnancy symptoms, and nightmares about what has happened. I ache all over, feel exhausted and unbearably sad. I'm also a single parent and the reality of being alone has hit very hard. Can anyone give me advice on how to heal more quickly - my children need me well - and has anyone been through similar and can tell me when I might start feeling better? I'm so desperate to stop bleeding, it's like the grief goes on and on. Huge sympathy and empathy for all here going through this awful time.

roominthesky so sorry for your very traumatic month, you’ve been through the mill. to you.

I think firstly you need to be very nice to yourself for as long as it takes to feel like a semi-normal person. Make sure to rest/sleep whenever you can (do you have any family nearby to help with your children? – or childcare that will help you rest during the day?), that is number one priority. Then a really good multivitamin and/or iron supplement is in order, your resources are depleted. Cut down on caffeine and alcohol and try your best to eat lots of good food (although hit the chocolate too – you deserve LOTS of treats). I’ve had two mmc’s (both at 9 weeks) since January and sleep is the main thing I need to feel less rubbish and sad. I’m starting acupuncture on Friday on recommendation from a friend, she has also recommended yoga but I don’t have the energy for that just yet.

I really hope you feel better in yourself soon, but be kind to yourself too, you’ve really been through the wars. Rest rest rest. An un-MN hug to you x

@PartyintheKitchen thank you for your kindness. I'm so sorry you've had to endure losses too.