Ivf pregnancy 10 week scan no heartbeat

[Lozza41]

I am heartbroken. After a scan at 7 weeks that showed a heartbeat after first round of IVF a scan at 10 weeks yesterday afternoon showed the baby had not grown since 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat. This is my second miscarriage. The first at 41yrs from a natural pregnancy. I really thought this time everything would be okay and I feel stupid for believing it would. I feel this a nightmare I cannot wake up from and I have no idea how I will get through it. I know I will want to try again but the defeats each time are harder to take and I am 43yrs next month. I have to go the EPU this morning and I am terrified of what will happen next. Any advice for older ladies out there?

No specific advice I’m afraid. I’ve had two MC, one was after IUI but not IVF.

Just wanted to say that I’ve read this and I’m thinking of you

I'm so sorry. I'm having a miscarriage following IUI, any kind of miscarriage is awful but it's particularly horrible when you have gone through so much to get pregnant in the first place.

I hope EPU have been supportive/helpful for you this morning.

I really feel your pain. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks when I was 36. My only advice is to focus on yourself for a while, letting yourself grieve - I spent a week crying, sipping tea and listening to spotify alone, reading 'Women who Run with the Wolves'. Advice which helped me was the thought that this is all part of life and the cycles of fertility - the eternal, female existance. Does that make sense? This experience has turned you into a mother forever and you will find you have deeper insight and empathy. Not sure if you hope to try again, but if you do, know that you might be more fertile after ERPC..

Thanks I had the ERPC yesterday. It was a though day at the hospital and I lost more blood than normal but am okay. Just cannot believe this time last week I thought everything was okay. I know I will want to try again but at 42 I am scared it may never happen for us.