Miscarriage

[Thatgirl123]

Hiya, I’m new on anything like this.
I misscarried around 5 months ago I was 5 weeks pregnant but I didn’t know I was pregnant. I feel super guilty how can I not know I was pregnant I’m suppose to protect it and I couldn’t even do that. I’ve had no support from the dad and I’m really struggling was just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation who
Wouldn’t mind talking

It's said 1in 4 periods of women ttc is a very very early pregnancy. Back in the day when hpt weren't used til af was a fortnight late women were blissfully oblivious.
Ttc is a tough bloody business op, don't falter at the first hurdle or you won't have the emotional +physical strength to move on.
Nothing you could have done differently would have given you a different outcome. Eat week, sleep well and take your folic acid and try again.
Sorry you feel shitty, I have been there several times.
Keep talking to your partner about your feelings - you are in this together. Men don't generally start the deep and meaningful chats necessary at this time so take stock and get talking.

Hiya thanks for replying, we wasn’t trying for a baby we’re not even together anymore because of everything’s that happened

Hi I’ve just joined for some advice really, I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant, I had a missed miscarriage 10 years ago and I’m terrified it’s going to happen again, wondering if anyone knows what the chances are? X

I couldn’t tell you sweetie, I’ve not long lost my first baby so I wouldn’t know I hope someone can give you the answers x

Thatgirl123, you couldn't have done anything to stop the miscarriage happening even if you knew you were pregnant at the time.

Not knowing until you lost the baby also doesn't make the loss any easier. Have you contacted the Miscarriage Association to talk to someone about it?

Like Aprilmightbemynewname said, back in the days people didn't know they were pregnant until a lot later on. Your body does all the protecting for you before your brain even knows about it. Please try not to feel guilty.

Jadey1989xxx You're probably better posting a new thread to ask about your question as it's a different situation to OP's. Sorry for your loss. I imagine it's very worrying being pregnant again after loss; I'm hoping to conceive again soon myself but also worried about it.

Knitkat, can you personal message me about the miscarriage association please

I am so sorry for your loss. It is a tough thing to go through even with a supportive partner. Please don't blame yourself though. Not everybody knows they are pregnant at that stage and more people than you may think may have a miscarriage without ever even knowing they did. At that stage the embryo is a tiny wee speck and is pretty much self contained. There is no placenta yet, it is living off it's own yolk sac and nothing you can do can really harm or help it (unless there is a medical reason for the miscarriage - which is rare if you have only had one miscarriage). I have had 3 miscarriages. The first missed miscarriage the baby died at 8 weeks, but I didn't even know it was dead until 10 weeks. This was a baby we had tried for, wanted, knew was there and had been careful about. And yet I couldn't protect it and didn't even know it had gone. The next two died at around 5 weeks. I was even more super careful and it made no difference. We now have a beautiful baby girl.

SPeak to the miscarriage assosciation or Tommy's (links below) and be kind to yourself and give yourself a chance to heal. Then I wish you every luck in finding someone worthy of you and creating a family with them.

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/pregnancy-complications/pregnancy-loss/miscarriage-information-and-support