Medical management experiences please? Terrified X

[Laney79]

So my fears are rapidly about to be realised. My useless body isn't letting go. So tomorrow I have to go for medical management. I have a very bad phobia of dr's/medical stuff which makes this very difficult for me, on top of the trauma and grief of losing my bean.

I've already negotiated to self administer the pessary, and I've told them I will not stay the 3 hours minimum they want me to even if it means signing a waiver/discharge against med advice. I just can't. I'd be so stressed and anxious and I want to be at home when I lose my baby.

They've told me to pack an overnight bag to take with me "just in case" but I really really don't want to. It feels like by doing that I'm admitting that I'm willing to have that happen, and frankly unless I'm dying I'm not willing to stay overnight. It feels like tempting fate. My other half is getting frustrated with me over it. 😢

So for those who've had the pills did any of you have to stay overnight? If so why? Also how long did it take for the medication to kick in? What was your experience of it? I need to hear some positive (if it ever can be in this situation) stories of this process too.

Thanks X

Ahh I am glad you have got some peace with your bean. I think it's lovely that your body has done this. Baby will always be with you.

I hope the other meds work for you and your body succumbs to them.

When my babies heart stopped beating I didn't know but I got comfort in the fact that my body could hold a pregnancy.. I came to terms thinking that the baby needed something to continue to develop but it wasn't there.

I have to little girls now and they are both lovely and healthy. I am sure this will happen for you too.

I conceived both of mine on holiday too. Hopefully your meds will start to work then you can go away and who knows what might happen xx