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Time off

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Pips841 · 09/04/2018 18:30

Hi all, I'm not one to dodge work at all in fact I'm the opposite. Just wondering how long you have had off work from you found out to you return... work is so stressful and I'd be afraid of telling someone where to go....

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IHateToCashew · 09/04/2018 18:37

I didn't during any of my three, and it was the stupidest choice I think I ever made. I think some women find keeping busy helps, but I found I was hopeless at work and really struggled to get through the days.

I don't think there are any time limits. You'll know when you're ready to go back. I just think no pressure, but do whatever is right for you. Thanks

mehhh · 09/04/2018 18:39

I worked from home for a week which really helped me, I didn't really want to talk to anyone and kept crying and i felt vile in myself, so has his own office & company with only a few people & his own small office so I went with him and worked there, just being with him was nice I'm so glad my work were so understanding

KnitKitty · 09/04/2018 20:24

I had two and a half weeks off.

I took 4 days off initially when I found out I had a missed miscarriage, to mull over my options and decide what to do next and to get my head around losing the pregnancy. Then I had a week in which I tried medical management, but it didn't work either time. The next week I had surgical management and they signed me off for a further two weeks, but I only took one and got a return to work from my GP.

CottonSock · 09/04/2018 20:28

I had four miscarriages and up to a week off depending on how far along I was. I do think it makes a big difference. My mc at 11 weeks was physically and emotionally worse than at 5 weeks, which I didn't miss work for. It depends how you feel.

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 09/04/2018 20:30

I was off for 4 weeks in total from finding out that there wasn't a heartbeat to going back, I should have taken another week as on the day I went back one of my colleagues announced she was pregnant and was due the same day I would have been , that hit me really hard and it was horrible coming back straight to that

Littlelondoner · 09/04/2018 20:33

I have had 8 misscarridges had everything from a month off too taking a longer lunch break to clean up and grab some air.

Ultimately each time my bodies felt differant.

It is a very personal thing. You wont know how you will feel.

Take each day at a time Flowers

Fidgety31 · 09/04/2018 21:36

I found out last Wednesday my baby had no heartbeat and I self certified off work
I went hospital today for a scan to confirm and the dr gave me a sick note for two weeks without me even needing to ask.
I may be ready by then but if I’m not I will take longer off
My mental well-being is more important than my job

reddressblueshoes · 09/04/2018 22:27

I found out I'd had a missed miscarriage on the Monday, worked the Tuesday, had ERPC on the Wednesday and was back in the following Monday. Mentally I was ok but I was anaemia without realising so felt a bit rubbish for the next few weeks till I started taking iron. I think different people react differently.

fabulous01 · 09/04/2018 22:32

Everyone is different and it depends on your commute, your workplace and your role
Do what feels right for you

randomuntrainedcuntowner · 09/04/2018 22:36

I had an early loss/chemical last month. The first day I was just spotting and a bit crampy so went into work as usual, was also at that point hoping all would be ok. The next day I was bleeding fairly heavy and cramping a lot, and when I realised that was probably it, I was emotionally not able to face gong in.

Prior to that I had an ectopic and I had two weeks off, but obviously I was recovering from surgery. I think it depends a lot on how you are physically as well as that varies from person to person.

randomuntrainedcuntowner · 09/04/2018 22:39

So just had the one day for the chemical

Thelampshadelady · 09/04/2018 22:39

Found out mmc on the Tuesday. At work the Wednesday (I’ve a job it’s very difficult to take off from)
Medical management meant missing the following Tuesday back at work Wednesday then back in hospital Friday and Saturday (missing another 2 days work). I was happy to be at work to take my mind off it all.

Nades84 · 10/04/2018 17:11

We found out on Friday 23rd March that our baby had sadly stopped developing. I've been off work ever since (2 weeks of scans and being stuck in limbo) first week my fantastic boss gave me paid personal leave, last week was self cert and I've now been signed off until next week at least following my ERPC last Thursday. The way I feel at this moment in time I can't face the thought of going to work (physically and mentally) hoping I'll start to feel better soon.

It's such a personal thing and everyone's circumstances and the way they deal with things like this are different. Don't rush yourself and just do what you need to do ☺

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