Miscarriage Charity Choir - Would you join?

[Wigglywigglywooo]

I’m thinking of starting a choir to raise money for The Miscarriage Association or possibly starting a new charity.

I love to sing but only around the house. I have no experience of singing! I want to create a place for people like me who have been in that very isolated place when having a miscarriage. For people who have also suffered a loss, men and women, family and friends who want to support this charity and most importantly get people talking! I hate that months later, people tip toe around the topic with me. People are afraid to ask or talk about it.

I want to do something to help. I have a friend who is a singer and has ran several choirs and I’m hoping I can get her on board or find someone else who might be interested.

I want it to be a place where people can gather, sing, have fun and find support from each other.

My question to you is...would you join? If you saw this would you be put off by the idea or would you be interested? No singing experience necessary. Just a love of music.

And if you like the idea...what would you name the choir? X

[KnitKitty]

I like the idea. I would certainly consider joining. I'd have to have a think about the name...

Could your charity save money to do pregnancy tests for post miscarriage? That's the one thing I have found fault with, with the care I have received through my miscarriage.

The more I think about it the more I find it unfair that ladies having a miscarriage have to do pregnancy tests out of their own pocket, when either result is horrible to see. You hope for a negative, but once it comes it's emotional, and if it's still positive that's just as bad! If there was somewhere to go where they did the pregnancy test for you and were able to say "you need to come back next week to do another one/you may need to contact your EPU again, would you like help with that?" or "you don't need another test now, it's the result you needed" rather than having to see "pregnant" or "not pregnant" I would have liked that. Or a miscarriage "buddy" who could read the results for you.

[Wigglywigglywooo]

@KnitKitty thank you for your response. I think that’s a really great idea. I’m not sure how I’d go about setting up a charity, I need to look into it more. But I always felt they should give you something like a leaflet or a little pack of info. We had nothing. Perhaps your idea is something that could be included. Thank you for that.

I just want people to feel like they have a support network of people who really understand. And that together we can raise awareness and understanding x

[Jessabean]

I think a choir is a great idea & would definitely sign up if it was local to me. Anything that allows people to have a space to socialize & talk with people who have been through pregnancy loss & are not afraid to talk about things openly sounds great to me!

Likewise think the name could be a bit tricky- I feel like would probably have to be something fairly boring & formal sounding unfortunately as any clever play on word type names may unfortunately come across a bit inappropriate!

XxxX

[K0013]

I think that’s a really nice idea although I can’t sing I’m awful 😊 I had been thinking myself that it would be good do to something to raise more awareness. It is such a lonely time. Keep us updated please and I’ll see how I can help x

[Wigglywigglywooo]

Great I’m so pleased that there is Atleast a few people who might like to!

I think something needs to be done to give men and women more support on miscarriage and I was hoping this might be a fun way to do it.

I agree @Jessabean the name would have to be carefully considered! Will have to spend a long time thinking of that. Will have to check charity registers too as if I later decide to set up my own charity then it would need to be available! I’m based in Sussex so if any of you are nearby then it would be great to talk more! Thank you for your replies XX

[EasterRobin]

I wouldn't as I don't like to think about my MCs. It would make me too sad to have a regular reminder of my losses.

[Wigglywigglywooo]

@EasterRobin I understand that. Thank you for commenting.

I don’t want anyone to feel forced to share their stories or experience. This will never be an expectation.

In terms of name....a word I just found “Lacuna” it’s Latin and it means an empty space or missing part. Could be an option. I need to check the meaning from a reliable source though!

I also want to point out that this will in no way bring me any financial gain. It will be charity based.

[Wigglywigglywooo]

On second thoughts...perhaps something more positive xx

[KnitKitty]

I thought of something like Singing for Souls. Bit ambiguous maybe.

BTW, nowhere near Sussex, but I'm sure there are people down there who would join.

[HidCat]

Sounds like the sort of thing I would join. Maybe something like the Rainbow choir, something to say that people look forward afterwards.

[FeedingFrenzy5]

I think this would have helped me. I am not a good singer but I do find it very soothing. The only thing I would say is that I normally think of a choir as being a commitment, with a performance schedule, songs that you are learning over a period of time, etc. Maybe that's just from years of school choir practice?! I would not have been interested in committing to anything when I was going through my loss. But a drop-in singing group would be lovely, and I think better if you marketed it like that - come along any time, different songs every week.

[BecciK]

Hi Everyone, I realise this is a bit of an old thread but I am hoping to start up a choir just like this in Norwich if anyone lives up this way! You can email me on [email protected] if you want to stay in the loop :)