Recurrent miscarriage

[Missnaraya]

Hi all,

New to this and just wondering if anyone has been through anything similar with good news at the end. I've had a miscarriage at 8 weeks, 2 at 5 weeks, 1 at 6 weeks and an ectopic all in the last 12 months.

I'm hoping now my doctor will refer me to the recurring miscarriage unit. I know early miscarriages can be due to chromosome disorders etc, but any advice on anyone that has been through something similar, on what to expect next and what your experience was. I'm 38 now so haven't got time to waste. My partner and I don't have any children, and really want s child together.

Thank you to all

[K0013]

Hi, I just wanted to say I am so so sorry for your losses, you have been through so much in the last year. Sending you massive hugs xx

[MyFamilyAndOtherAnimals1]

for you xx

[PJ12]

Hi Missnaraya
I'm really sorry about your miscarriages. It's an awful thing to go through but when it happens multiple times it is heart wrenching. I've had 5 miscarriages over the last 2.5 years and I'm also 38. I have a dd aged 3.5. I had no issues conceiving her and it was a straight forward pregnancy. All my issues started after her. I usually miscarry around 7/8 weeks. I am seeing Dr S at the miscarriage clinic in Epsom and I'm also under St Mary's in London. At the appointment you will have a few vials of bloods taken to make sure you don't have a blood clotting issue, check your thyroid levels and have a scan of your uterus etc. Those are usually the main reasons for recurrent miscarriage. However, in half of the cases a reason is never found (me being one of them). It's very frustrating.

Have you looked into the natural killer cells? The NHS doesn't believe in it but a lot of the private consultants do run these test (I am seeing Mr Shehata in Epsom). Just to warn you, these tests can be very expensive. The natural killer cells test is usually around 2K (it doesn't just test for nk cells but a whole other range).

I'm really sorry you find yourself in this situation. Hopefully you will be able to find a cause for your miscarriages very quickly. Wishing you all the luck in the world xx.

[Maggi85]

Hi, so sorry to hear about you losses I understand how difficult it can be I’ve had 3 miscarriages in the last year 2 at 7/8 weeks and the last one at 16 weeks - where I was induced and we had a perfect little boy. The last miscarriage triggered special recurring miscarriage care - I’ve had all the tests and they haven’t found anything wrong with me or baby. I am currently pregnant again very early days am taking all my pregnancy vitamins as well as a dose of baby aspirin. My advice is to keep trying and be positive - ask for all the blood tests to check hormones just to rule it out. Good luck and lots of love x

[Labmum]

I have also just been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. It’s good to see what tests they will hopefully do, I feel like I need to try get some answers before thinking about trying again, in all my miscarriages the baby stopped developing at the 8-9week stage, in the most recent I’d had a reassurance scan at 7 weeks and seen a heartbeat. I feel like there must be a reason for it always being at this stage.
I have an almost 2 year old boy who was obviously just a little miracle, I’m not even sure I want to try again as I suffer with really bad nausea in early pregnancy and it just doesn’t seem fair on him having a tired miserable Mummy who has no patience as she’s permanently gritting her teeth to stop from puking.
Wishing everyone luck and rainbows.

[CatES28]

I'm so sorry to read of all your losses Missnaraya, PJ12, Maggi85 and Labmum.

After an uncomplicated pregnancy and birth of my DD in 2015, I now (aged 37) also find myself in the very grim situation of having had 5 losses in the last year. One missed miscarriage at 9 weeks (baby stopped developing between 6&7 weeks), 3 losses at 5 weeks and most recently last month a loss at 9 weeks.
I feel terribly let down by my body and can't really believe that this happening. I think I only really admitted to myself that there was really a problem after this most recent loss. I had put the first loss down to chromosomal bad luck, and whilst the three early 5 week losses that came next were tough, I told myself that if I got further, and saw a heartbeat then all would be fine. But no, the baby that I thought was going to make everything better, my rainbow with a strong heartbeat at 8 weeks also died silently...there were no clues until 10 weeks that my rainbow wasn't going to make it.

I'm currently undergoing all the standard blood clotting and thyroid tests....so far everything has come back normal.
Really not sure what to try next....and also not sure if I can take another loss, or if I can go through the stress of pregnancy, wondering every day if the baby has died.

We conceive easily and for the first time since we started trying for No.2 I'm just not sure if I can take another positive test. It will more than likely mean the start of another rollercoaster of emotions which will likely end in heartbreak. But I'm also not quite ready to give up....

I'm so sorry that others are also in this position.

[Maggi85]

After my last miscarriage I asked myself the question could I do it again could I put myself through it - but then I asked myself what’s the alternative. I have no children so for me I want to keep trying and hopefully one day everything will work out and I will have a perfect little baby - it can be hard but I just stay positive and try to deal with the losses by knowing that I’m giving it my best shot and everything will be ok in the end x if any of you can’t put yourselves through the heartache then that is a loss in itself so you will need time and support to deal with that decision also xxxxx all my love to you all x

[Missnaraya]

Very true Maggi85. I keep thinking it's so hard, but I have to keep trying as there is no alternative. I'd always imagined having a big family, but I'd be absolutely on cloud 9 if I had one healthy baby one day. The losses are sad, but trying to stay positive as it will happen one day if we keep trying.

So sorry for all of you in this same situation. My partner has supplied his 'sample' now and I've been tested for anti lupus coagulant. Just another week to wait for results. Keeping everything crossed.

Good luck to all of you... hope to hear some wonderful news from people on here soon x

[Missnaraya]

Thank you for the advice PJ12 x good luck to you too x

[daisydalrymple]

I’ve only had one mmc, but a friend of mine had 7 miscarriages before conceiving her first dd at 35, then another two before her second dd at 37. (She truly believed she couldn’t carry boys.) Forgive me as I don’t know the exact details of preventative treatment, but I recall she used to inject herself and I think there was possibly some aspirin at some stage.

Sorry for all your losses and I hope for healthy pregnancies soon x

[Maggi85]

I have been out on progesterone to help this pregnancy - willing to try anything that may help xx