First pregnancy and now miscarriage

[claret3189]

So we were lucky enough to get pregnant from our one and only nhs cycle of ivf. This has led to miscarriage at five weeks. I couldn't face work today I am bleeding heavy and its hit me when I woke up from the little sleep I did manage to get. I had so many plans and now they have gone. Someone told me their parnter was five weeks pregnant last week too and I remember thinking of how we would be the same all the way through. I just feel broken I could have coped better with a negative x

I'm so sorry. I went through this with my 2nd round of ivf. We only had one funded too and it felt like I'd just paid £££ to be heartbroken. It's horrible. Any mc is terrible but I think the sucker punch with ivf is knowing you can't just 'try again.' My sister was pregnant 2 weeks different than me and I feel like her baby is haunting me of the baby I was supposed to have. So I understand how you feel. Hugs.

Aww that must be so hard. How are you managing with that. Do you think you will try again by self funding when you are ready. I hope you have lots of support xx

We've already had a 3rd cycle and it was a chemical. We are currently waiting on further tests before we decide if we have another go with my eggs or maybe donor eggs, which my clinic suggested even though I'm 32. They think inhale an egg quality issue. It's all self funded at this point so we are looking into going abroad as it's much cheaper.

How are you coping? Will you self fund a cycle? Can I ask...are you explained or unexplained?

Ours is explained it is a male factor.
We have no more cycles left so it would be self funded but we would need to save and emotionally i need time away i think.
Are you open to other methods i.e adoption, fostering
I feel at such a loss right now :-(