Partner isn't ready to try again after 4 years

[FionnP]

I'm new to this so forgive me for not using any short hand.

Three months into our relationship my boyfriend and I found out we were pregnant. My boyfriend talked about abortion but after a week or two we decided to keep it. I thought my boyfriend was excited as he named the baby and he'd talk about taking the baby to rugby. Literally two days after he named our baby I started bleeding. It all went so fast.

He cried the day the scan showed the baby was no longer there, but it hit me the hardest. I knew it was not planned, but I needed a baby. I begged to try again, but my boyfriend said he wasn't ready for a baby.

Over the last 4 years my boyfriend has been amazing, I have had two mental break downs (all linked to the miscarriage) and he has always been there for me.

He truly is the love of my life. But he still doesn't want a baby. He says he's not ready. But all I can think of is that we should have a three year old.

I'm a mum without a baby.

I don't know what I should do. I could never trick him into getting me pregnant, I just couldn't.

I just don't know how I can convince him.

There's not necessarily anything you can do to convince him, he needs to come back to it in his own time. It sounds like he was totally invested in the baby you lost, which is lovely but in dealing with that and seeing how it affected you he probably is terrified of it happening again. Is he around other people who have kids or have perhaps been through the same?