Happy Mother's Day to us xx

[Wigglywigglywooo]

To all those who never had a chance to hold their little one and those who could only hold their little one for a short time. Although others may never understand that today can be tough for us and they may not remember this or any other significant date...we will remember. We are all mothers in our hearts.

So today if you need a hand to hold, to rant or a place to just let you feelings out, whatever they may be...let this be a place to do it.

Miscarriage can be a lonely place but it’s not a secret and it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

We are all amazing, strong (although it may not always feel like it) and loving people.

Happy Mother’s Day to all of us 💖

Thank you Wiggly!

I must admit I'm not feeling strong today. Going to see my mum shortly and my sisters and their kids will be there having their Mother's Day. I get nothing. No recognition that I should have a 2 year old of my own, but they never made it past 7 weeks. Its also a reminder that I might never get to be a mum because of infertility. It's rubbish and feels to me like it just highlights my inadequacy yet again.

Sending to the rest of you guys too who are also having a pants day xxx

This is harder than I thought it would be.

Here's to all of us struggling with a grief we can't really express. Who are coping with (or attempting to cope with) crippling disappointment and sadness. Who are dealing with uncertainty over the future and batting off sympathy from well meaning friends and family.

Thank you, I’m really struggling today 💔 xx

We all have each other for support. This month has been hideous for me, our friends announced they were pregnant, I was then dreading today and then today of all days my sister in law announces she’s pregnant. I’m in bits. But I’m so glad we have this little community who all understand that horrid feeling x

Exactly we can all support each other. I don't think anyone can truly understand it unless they've been through it.

Another one struggling today. Six miscarriages and a failed IVF. Need to go and see mum and mil and really don't know if I can.

Huge hugs to you all today.

@fourpawswhite that must be so hard for you.

I have cancelled my plans, told my OH that I just need a day to not be okay. I’m tired of putting on a brave face and I need a day to just acknowledge that this is shit and that’s it’s okay for me to just be okay and wait for today to be over.

Xx

Just not be okay I meant

Should have had an 8 week old. I don't.

@Presh12345 xxxx

I needed this thread today - I should have scans and a bump to show off and telling people how 2 years of trying finally succeeded, instead I'm watching my sister get presents cards and well wishes for a baby they didn't expect or plan. Ive cleaned the house three times over the smell of bleach is burning my nose slightly and all I can do is sit and cry. I'm struggling massively and today is a horrid day to open up to anyone about it as it's supposed to be all love and happiness. I'm so so so sorry for everyone's losses on here, no matter how early, how long ago.

I'm feeling detached; saw my parents last night, no plans to see DH's mum today, so I'm sat at home on the computer "working". My mc was in November, I am still grieving in my heart. Trying to distract myself and not feel too sad. I did get a bit weepy earlier when my cousin sent my a 'Happy Mother's Day' text, which I knew was because she understands I view myself as a mother even though I've only ever had one pregnancy.

I'd be 24 weeks today.

to everyone else also suffering with this loss.

I was just about to post something like this myself. I realised that I'm struggling today despite having my DS so I can't imagine how hard it is for those who are yet to have their child in their arms. Happy Mother's Day everyone, I know it doesn't feel like it but you all became Mums the moment you accepted your pregnancy as a child. I will always think of myself as a Mother of 2 (or more if we're lucky enough to be blessed again). 💐

I must say first that I have two living children but I'm also struggling today too. We lost our son at 20 weeks earlier this year. He wouldn't have even be here yet and to be honest I didn't expect today to be a hard one (well, harder than any other day), but my Mother's Day shouldn't have looked like this and I'm teary and I miss him so much. Sending love to you all xxx

I wasn't sure how I should be feeling today, but I guess that's okay. I should be 28 weeks. I went to see my baby niece who was a delight as usual and even let me put her down to sleep when she'd screamed with everyone else. She was born the day I found out I was pregnant so she's extra special to me.

Wiggly what a lovely post. Brought tears to my eyes. I'm sorry to everyone who has had a loss x

Thanks OP, starting this thread has really helped me.
I felt dejected as soon as today began, I explained to DH why it struck a nerve but he just...sort of... harrumphed.
He seems no longer pained or saddened by our loss and almost baffled by the fact I still have lots of feelings about it.
We should have been in the final month before being able to meet our baby, but instead I miscarried around 10wks.
So, today I feel (pointlessly) jealous of our friends with children, sad and pathetic. And we'll carry on TTC....

@forcookssake you are more than welcome. I for one have struggled horrendously today. I’m emotionally drained now. I told my OH that I couldn’t face going to the shops until Mother’s Day had been and gone and initially he thought I was just being silly. It’s so hard isn’t it and I’m sorry that we all have experience in this but I’m also glad that we have each other for support xx

@forcookssake I almost took a sigh of relief reading that you too have feelings of jealousy - I've felt this since I mc, I feel so guilty about it but I can't help it! I've not told anyone because it sounds selfish of me :( this post and this website is amazing for support from others in the same situation, unsure I'd be doing as well without this connection

I saw this and thought of every single one of us. Hope everyone is feeling a little better today xx

Thanks for this thread

I found out on mothers day that my little bean had died. Its not the ideal day but I am a mother. I've since had medical management and we have planted a beautiful purple rose.

We will never forget our beautiful children. I would like to send you all love and hugs x

@Lilimum4 what an awful day to find out. I hope you and your partner are doing ok.

We are getting by but thank you x