2 miscarriages.. is it a bad coincidence?

[paigeleeforever182]

I have had 2 miscarriages in a row now.. and now I have no clue where to go from here. Feel like none of the doctors will listen to me and tell me there are no tests to be done. I want to try for our little one so bad, but I’m terrified this is just going to keep happening.. i’m Hoping it’s just bad coincidence. Everyone around me is pregnant.. and I feel so alone. :( Is there anyone that has had to miscarriages and went on to have a healthy baby the third time around? Would love to hear success stories

Yes me. I miscarried twice in a row, between 5&7 weeks then had a very straightforward pregnancy third time round. I do think it was bad luck personally.

@paigeleeforever182 I'm so sorry you are going through it again. From what I understand, recurrent miscarriage testing is only done after 3 consecutive mcs as 2 is regarded as bad luck. You could look at getting tests privately though if you think it would help you.

@lightoflaluna I’m glad to hear it worked out for you! Both of my mine were around the same time, 7 weeks, so I’m hoping that doesn’t mean something is wrong :( Hoping for some better days soon!

I'm so sorry. I have had 4 MC and the second was the worst - you can just about convince yourself one MC was bad luck, very common, baby probably had something wrong, nature's way blah, blah.... but everyone is sure it will be ok next time. Second time nobody is taking you seriously and investigating but it is much harder to swallow the 'bad luck' theory. The NICE guideline is to refer for investigation after 3 consecutive losses, but if your GP is sympathetic they may run some tests for you now ( basic bloods, thyroid levels, hormone levels) it is worth asking. I did eventually have my DD after Coventry RMC diagnosed my issue ( high uNK cells). I really hope everything works out for you.

I felt exactly the same after 2nd mc.

3rd pregnancy I took lots of vitamins thought to help and a low dose of aspirin, my own research not guided by a doctor.

Baby was born happy and healthy at 42 weeks.

Could be the vitamins, could be chance, could be I felt much calmer as I was doing something.

Good luck and sorry for your losses

I've had two MCs and am still TTC#1. I felt similar to you OP and paid to see a private consultant who has done the blood tests (all clear) and I'm waiting until the right time in my cycle to have my hormone profiling done. I'm now on progesterone after ovulation, high dose folic acid and aspirin plus various supplements.

I'm sure something will show up in my hormone blood tests as have PCOS so may need medication to manage that but I can tell you I feel 100% better for doing something and being proactive.

I had a missed mc at 13 weeks then a mc 6 weeks
I then had my gorgeous daufgter all healthy

My little boy is now 2 and a half. No problems at all during pregnancy or birth. But when we tried for number 2 I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks- upset tummy then baby literally just fell out- it was just horrendous and absolutely devastating- I still don’t know how we got through it. Then we tried again and paid for an early scan at 9 weeks only to be told there was no baby- just an empty yolk sack. We have left it over a year now because I felt like while I’m obsessing over having baby number 2 I’m not giving my son my best. We’re thinking of giving it another go in a couple of months. It’s just so scary to put yourself out there again. Good luck to you all. I really hope it just came down to bad luck. While I was pregnant the second miscarriage pregnancy- we found out my father in law had terminal cancer. I like to think it happened for a reason and it was just the universe telling us it wasn’t a good time.

In my friendship group four of us had miscarriages (out of 6!) with our first pregnancies, and one of my friends went on to have another consecutive. We now all have healthy babies! Don’t give up xxx

Sorry to hear this is happening to you OP. I had an early one at 5/6 weeks and then got pregnant again quickly after. I remember laughing and saying to my husband 'surely no one is unlucky enough to have two MCs in a row!' That pregnancy ended in a MMC (and a D&C) at around 10 weeks

I am now 30 weeks pregnant. The first trimester was awful. I was just waiting for it to all go wrong, I kept saying 'if' rather than 'when' and I had a billion reassurance scans where I thought I would honestly pass out from nerves.

After 2 MCs I asked my doctor if we could should run any tests and she said no, she honestly felt it was just bad luck. I am overseas and have excellent private healthcare so am sure she would have happily recommended some (very expensive) testing if she felt it necessary.

Best of luck to you.

Have they recommended aspirin? They seem much quicker to say give it a try these days, in my experience anyway.