First pregnancy miscarried now feeling resentment and jealousy for all others.... feel guilty! Help!

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So me and my partner were trying for nearly 2 years to get pregnant. We finally caught in January however had an early Mc. I'm distraught and although I've now accepted it and fallen back into my normal routine with work and life - I can't rid feelings of jealousy and resentment towards those who are pregnant or have little babies. It's not me at all I would NEVER show it, in fact it makes me feel guilty and sad to feel this way, but I simply can't shift these emotions.... has anyone else experienced this and have any advice on how to move past it? I just feel like being outwardly optimistic and hopeful isn't healing me enough.

I'm so sorry for your loss :-(
I miscarried in December and felt the same as you. Someone at work announced they were pregnant shortly after and it felt like a punch in the stomach, she said it to someone next to me and I had to pretend I didn't hear and walk away :-( I feel bad about it but I couldn't do anything else! I think it just takes time. Look after yourself and don't be so hard on yourself x

So sorry for your loss
You have been through a horrible time and your feelings are completely valid. I too lost my first pregnancy and it is a really hard time. My colleague brought her new baby into the office a couple of weeks after my miscarriage (she didn't know) and I couldn't cope with staying in the same room.

Sending a big hug (and if it offers any positives I fell pregnant again after my miscarriage and now have a 9 month old daughter.) xx

@Happened thank you xx. A few people have told me they fell pregnant rather quickly after a Mc... unsure why it is but did you find you caught again quicker than before??

I heard that too, I think it's something to do with hormone levels making you more fertile. The nurse at my miscarriage diagnosis told me that you're often more fertile right after one. I got pregnant 2 months after mine. The same thing happen to a friend of mine too.

I hope you get your little rainbow baby soon xx

Pregnant quickly after miscarriage here also.

I was awful trying to get pregnant and after mc when I even saw a baby. I had to leave cafes and everything.

But at least I knew I could get pregnant. That gave me hope.

@frasier that's why I'm trying to take out of all of this - we were having tests for fertility issues so now at least I know there's no issues and we can overcome that hurdle.

Sorry for your loss.
I have a mc at 11weeks last January 2017. I still haven’t really got over it. Me, my closest friend and my sister in law all had the same due date: I couldn’t face them or speak to them until they were 6 months, and when I was with them I wouldn’t even mention them being pregnant, although clearly it was noticeable. After the mc I didn’t have sex for about 5 months, not because I didn’t want to but I was scared in case I didn’t fall pregnant and scared that if I did fall pregnant the chances of mc again. I still get a tan jealous of pregnant people now but no where near as bad. However, because of my friend and sister in laws babies will have there 1st birthdays in July, I can’t keep thinking what could have been. This year, i am sure I would be happy if I fell pregnant, but very nervous and scared, I’m not being at all carefull, taking no precautions, but when I do have a period there’s a little bit of relief that I’m not pregnant ( think this is just because of the mc ) I still won’t discuss any of this to anyone apart from my mum and the OH. I still have teary moments.
But all you can do is keep trying.
Good luck and I hope you get a baby soon x

@Niky90 wow my heart goes out to you so much, I can't imagine being in that situation. Slightly similarly my sister got pregnant last year by accident when we'd already been trying for nearly a year so I understand the hurt when someone close has what you wanted.... I guess it's normal to feel this way, lots of ladies on here have re assured me so, but it's so so hard... I wish you all the best and happiness and health for your rainbow baby when they decide to come. Look forwards xxx

Me too. Although is very much current for me. Had an early scan at 7 weeks yesterday and no heartbeat so now waiting for the inevitable miscarriage.

Am gutted and want it all to be over so we can go again but have to wait for nature to take its course .

Currently hibernating at home as I don't want to see anyone let alone babies!