D&C or Tablets?

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At our third EPU scan on Monday we found out that we had a missed miscarriage. I've been spotting/bleeding lightly for 3 weeks but the miscarriage hasn't happened naturally. I'm meant to be going for a D&C today but when I called to get my appointment time they said they haven't got any beds so I'll have to try later or Friday 😭 I'm in two minds now; for me the D&C was the natural choice because I'm totally heartbroken and just want closure on it; I have anxiety and a history of depression and I don't feel I can cope just waiting for it to happen. But if I have to try again Friday and potentially get turned away again, I don't know whether I'm better off just getting the tablets to get things moving even though I'm frightened of the pain and seeing our baby in the toilet 😭

Would really appreciate your thoughts. How is everyone else coping? This was our first pregnancy and we'd been trying for 10 months and I just feel completely devastated and scared it'll take a long time again and then there's no guarantee we wouldn't lose another baby. Could really do with hearing from others who've been through this and are ok now....

Really sorry to hear this. I had a missed mc (my 3rd mc) and chose to have a D&C. I think it would be less painful and much less bleeding. It's quite a short op and i think i was home the same day. Afterwards i went on to have two kids. (Oldest now a teenager.)

So sorry for your loss OP. I chose the surgical option for my MMC at 11 weeks. It was really fine and the staff were lovely, although like you I was just desperate for it to be over and also had to wait a few days. I felt better really quickly afterwards.

I had also been trying for nearly 18 months and had been diagnosed with PCOS so it was so upsetting. Fell pg 8 weeks after the d&c and now have two healthy DCs.

I'm sure others can advise on medical option, I was too afraid I'd end up needing the d&c anyway as my body hadn't managed to miscarry willingly- so to me it made sense. That might sound illogical though.

Hang in there, it is an awful time but you will come through it. Sending good wishes.

Thank you @FudgeMallowDelight that's so reassuring to hear you had two children after yours. I think I need to hang on for the D&C but it's so hard just waiting it out; I know we've lost our baby but I need it to be over so I can start moving forward x

Hope they sort you out with a bed soon.

Thank you for replying @Riskybiscuits xx Makes me feel better hearing that someone's had healthy babies after a MC. Thankfully they were able to find me a bed so I'm here now just waiting to go in. Just want it all to be over xx

OP glad they could get you in today. I hope you are feeling ok and are able to move on when you are ready to. Good luck

Scan on the Wednesday @8 weeks showed no hb, I was lucky in that I mc naturally on the Thurs at home. Didn't attend any appointments after that.
Hope the d & c goes well.

Thanks ladies xx @Myddognearlyatethedeliveryman I'm so sorry to hear you're going through it too. The D&C was absolutely fine - really pleased I was able to go with that option; a tiny bit of bleeding, I'm sore and have a little tummy ache, and tired/groggy from the anaesthetic but absolutely fine otherwise. The staff at the hospital were incredible, so kind and sensitive to what was happening. Hope you feel better soon xx

So sorry for your loss

I would go for D&C - when this happened to me (twins) I opted for the tablets, and unfortunately they only partially worked, so I had to go back in and have the D&C a few days later.

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Oh gosh so sorry - should have ready to the end! Take care.

I'm sorry you've been through this as well @Ginnotgym xx I'd read that could happen so that's another reason I opted for D&C. I'm just relived it's all over with now and I didn't have to wait until Friday, and the hospital were amazing fair play - the staff were was all so kind and sensitive to what had happened x