Can't cope, totally depressed

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I need to talk to someone and apart from my mum who lives about 300 miles away from me I have no-one I can really talk to.

I'm sat here sobbing feeling utterly helpless, depressed and like I can't cope.

I had a MMC blighted ovum discovered just before 12 week scan in November. My first pregnancy. I got pregnant again earlier this month and I'm losing that now too. I can't cope with this.

DH is OK but he's not that easy to talk to. I feel so alone. Is anyone there to talk to?

How are you today? I haven’t experienced what you have but have lost a baby late in pregnancy...

I will listen x

Oh I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s totally shit. How are you today? Xx

So sorry OP, sending hugs

Thank you for replying and sorry for anyone here who has suffered with some kind of loss. I'm feeling better today than yesterday mainly because it looks as though I'm mis carrying naturally and won't have to have any intervention in that sense (hopefully). Just feel exhausted as was up late in a state of distress and woke up early this morning. Now I'm just down and scared. Wondering what the future holds.

Sorry that is very hard. I had a miscarriage before each of my children and it is a very distressing time. I am glad you feel better today, start with basic care, eat well and get some rest. Whatever the future holds allowing yourself time to regain your energy and balance will help you deal with it.

So sorry OP I don’t know what to say, other than take time to grieve and look after yourself 💐

I sent you a private message. Hope you're ok x

I'm so sorry for your losses. I lost my first and second pregnancies also. I found out about the first loss at my 12 scan too. It was such a crushing shock to find out my baby had no heartbeat. It was nearly 4 years ago now and I still think of that loss every day. I was sad the second time too but because of the first experience I had been more mentally prepared.

I don't have words to console you I'm afraid. Only to say that I did have a successful third pregnancy. I searched the internet for stories of hope and it helped me to hear of other women went on to have successful pregnancies so I hope it gives you hope too. Meanwhile take care of yourself and don't put any pressure on yourself to 'get over it', grief is a journey and like I said, I still think of my first loss every day even now so it can be a long one. Lean on your dh.

Good luck, I hope you get your rainbow baby soon.