Miscarriage - waiting for it to pass naturally.

[MuumyPamper]

Hi Guys,

I need advise, I was 10 weeks pregnant and had a tiny bit of pain and a tiny amount of bleeding (dark blood) as I didn't experience this in the previous with my now toddler so we decided to go for a private scan. The scan confirmed no fetal pole or yolk sac just the gastation sac measuring at 15mm which the scanning lady advised suggested I lost the baby at around 6 weeks but had no obvious way of knowing due to no bleeding or pain. Has anyone ever miscarried without knowing?

I am quite certain of my dates as we have been trying for several months and I have been using an app to monitor.

The next day we were sent to the early pregnancy unit (which was aweful the put it next to the labour ward with women in normal pregnancies having scans in the same waiting room) but anyway. I was told by the midwife/doctor/ that due to the size 15mm they needed to wait another 7 days before my next scan for some legal reason? I'm confuesed by this as if the sac is measuring 6 weeks and I know I should be ten weeks then clearly nothing has changed in 4 weeks so why do they need to wait another week?

At which point if the sac is still there next week they have booked me in for surgical removal.

I have started bleeding a little more
Naturally I'm in pain, I feel like I'm just waiting for the sac to pass drop by drop which is just aweful. Can I have some advise around how much blood to expect? I'm sorry if this seems like a silly question but I have no idea if the amount I'm bleeding is significant enough

Frustrating, sad, drained xxx

I'm sorry for your loss
I'm coming to the end of a mc (well I hope it's the end) I've had heavy period like bleeding for 4 days. It now slowed down to lighter bleeding.
There is a post on here called that a lot of people have shared their experiences on, it's full of advice on what to expect, have a look for it
My advice is get plenty of painkiller for the cramps, box sets, and ride the sadness mine came in waves xx

The post is called tips for coping with the practicalities of miscarriage

Sorry for your loss. I’m currently having a. Miscarriage and the bleeding was incredibly heavy the first night but now is more like a heavy period (day 4). I was 8+4 but I don’t know if things stopped before but the bleeding is worse than when I miscarried at 6 weeks a few years ago. Hugs x

Hello. I am so sorry for your loss

I had near on the same experience except I miscarried naturally.

The blood loss really shocked me. No one, not even the drs or nurses, prepared me for it. I bled for 6 hrs, just dripping blood and the next day I had the pain and contractions and passed the sac. It was pretty awful but my tips to you are to invest in tena lady heavy duty sanitary towels and REST. I was signed off for 3 weeks and the week after mc I really needed as I was exhausted (low iron) and couldn’t lift anything or I’d bleed. I passed huge clots too which was what freaked me out most!

It took me 3 weeks to stop bleeding completely.

I’m telling you as I wish I was more informed. This is just my story, your miscarriage may be very different.

Lots of love to you

Sounds almost exactly the same situation. Thank you for sharing hoping this all passes soon. Xx

Hi MuumyPamper I’m in the same situation except have had no bleeding so far. Just desperately hoping it starts naturally. My last pregnancy ended at just over 5 weeks with an early loss so I’m completely devastated this time.

I'm amazed by the amount of women going through this, I honestly had no idea. I was worried before my bleeding started but I did happen eventually all in it must be nearly 4 weeks after it happened x I've gone back to work (from home) and it seems to have been so helpful to keep my mind off it

Thank you for the advise xx

Hiya,

I had the exact same 2 weeks ago - 10 weeks according to my dates but sac only 6-7 weeks in size with no embryo. From what I can tell they need to scan 7 days apart to give a baseline and then a confirmation that things aren't progressing as technically you could have your dates wrong. I believe it's something to do with abortion law? I had had a private scan as well and they said that they wouldn't be able to 'trust' that and so I had to be scanned in the EPU 7 days apart.

I had medical management after the second scan and was the same as you - had no idea what to expect at all. Happy to DM you details if it would help! Mine seems to have stretched out longer than a lot of people - it took 6 days of on-off bleeding and 3 separate rounds of contractions before I eventually passed the sac and then it tailed off pretty quickly.

My advice in short form: speak to work and get signed off, get whatever painkillers you can from hospital as it was bloody painful, get a microwaveable heat bag, someone to chat to and keep you company and hold your hand and get some box sets loaded up ready to go.

And also tell people. People will want to help and talk about it with you - I was really surprised (although don't know why as I have lovely friends and family) at how absolutely amazing and supportive people were. Don't just keep it to yourself, you'll be emotional and a bit weak and you will need people to have a little cry on or to watch box sets with and give you some dinner ☺️

Really feel for you - it's so absolutely horrible and crap, there's not much more to say than that!

X

Ooo and a warm shower worked wonders with the pain for me xx

Hi I’m so sorry your going through this. I also found out last week that I had had a MMC, I started spotting when I should have been 11+5 went for a scan and the baby was only measuring 7+5 with no heartbeat. We were devastated as we had already had an early scan and saw a heartbeat when the baby measured 7 weeks.

Since about Sunday I was getting bleeding but probably a bit less than a normal period, I didn’t think it was going to happen naturally so I was booked in today for a D&C however last night I started getting really bad cramps like contractions and the bleeding got heavier and I passed the pregnancy sac. The pain immediately went away & im still just bleeding like a normal period. I went to the hospital today as I was still booked in for the D&C and they scanned me and told me that everything had passed naturally and I would just continue to bleed for a few weeks as I still had thick lining. I honestly though the bleeding would have been so much worse but it was only really last night when I passed everything that I had heavy bleeding and pain. I think everyone is different.

I’m really struggling emotionally and have taken a few weeks off work just to try and come to terms with what has happened. I would defo say to talk to people about it as I have been amazed at how many woman have been in this situation and it really helps to feel like your not alone.

Take care of yourself & hopefully this is all over for us soon xx

I’ve started spotting this evening. How strange it’s started just after scan. Hopefully it’s not just irritation from all the poking at my cervix yesterday! Feels so weird to hope for bleeding now, having prayed to avoid it for the past 2 months.

Mine did the same, did they do an internal scan I think makes it come along. Hope your ok x

@MuumyPamper I have a short cervix so was in that clinic for review- had speculum, swabs and a vaginal ultrasound followed by another vaginal ultrasound. Hoping since my cervix is useless it’s set it off and not just irritation. They could see bleeding in uterus though so probably just chance.

I tried working from home today but tbh couldn’t concentrate so am taking a few days off. As Lisa said it’s more emotional than physical for me.

This is my 3rd consecutive loss and I’m taking it very hard. The last 2 were early and I was very philosophical about them but this one is tougher as I got my hopes up.

I can't imagine going through this 3 times :-( thoughts are with you.
If your looking for some mindless dribble to help distract you a little I watched sex in the city the movies today twice the clothes shoes and fake drama helped me escape for abit

This time is much worse- last 2 were just over 5 weeks so was like a late period and I tried to think of them as such.