I’m so very sorry for your losses. Mmc is unbelievably cruel and completely shattering. I had an early mc many years ago when not ttc, then started ttc with DH and got bfp in August 2016 and had an early mc, conceived again straight away with no af in between then found out about mc at 12 week scan, it had stopped at 9+5 same as greymoon and tried medical management but it failed then had an MVA November 16. Got referred to RMC by EPU and first appointment was early january 17. Had full lot of bloods done and they tested fetal tissue from the surgery so we got the results in the first appointment. All was clear.
The clinic runs once a week and we went back for test results 4 weeks later, all clear. I had my next bfp that day so started on the RMCs protocol which is injected fragmin/clexane that day and had an hcg test that day and a second 2 days later. The second hcg showed it wasn’t progressing and I had a natural mc at 5 weeks.
It was very reassuring to have a full load of tests done and to find nothing was wrong but also frustrating that there’s nothing to fix and no real reason to believe it won’t keep happening. My consultant is sure that for most people with recurring mc it’s a clotting issue, even when they can’t diagnose it with bloods, hence the clexane for everyone who wants to try it. He’s being running the clinic for 17 years and has only had 5 or 6 women not carry to term in all that time. They also offer scans every 2 weeks from 6-12 weeks when they hand you over to normal antenatal care if all is well.
I’ll be honest, 3 mcs in 7 months nearly finished me off, we’d conceived so easily I’d been pregnant for 6 months and still had no baby, it was spectacularly shit.
After the February mc he put me on baby aspirin from ovulation to af and I’m still taking it.
The bad news is that having conceived so easily I’ve now spent the last 12 months ttc and not had another bfp which is also taking a toll. I don’t have any reason to think it’s connected to my previous mcs. But having worried about continuing to get pregnant and then losing them, I’m now as worried about not getting pregnant again. Ttc has not gone how I thought it would!
DH has DC from his previous marriage and we’ve asked about tests as we haven’t conceived in nearly a year. As we’ve done it several times before they’re not keen to test anything but we’ll ask again in a couple of months.
Chase up a referral to your RMC. From chatting to others there’s a huge variation in how long it takes for them to see you and what they test for. We’ve been really lucky in all of our dealings with them, and everyone else we’ve met in the process. 7 weeks from referral to appointment and really kind, helpful care. Just need to get pregnant again now...
I’m more than happy to answer any questions you have about it. There’s also a brilliant thread on people ttc after recurrent mc/pregnancy loss under Conception where you’re welcome to join in and rant, ask questions, let off steam etc.
Sorry for the epic essay. You’re not alone OP, which sucks because who’d wish this on anyone else, but there are plenty of people who get it and want to support each other 