2017 thread miscarriage 3 days ago 10 weeks

[Greengreengrass123]

A lot of the posts I have seen on here are quite old so I thought I’d start a new one. Is anyone going through/gone through a miscarriage recently in the past few weeks? We told family on Christmas Day about the new addition (we were 10weeks) and then lost the baby on 28th. It’s 3 days later the cramps are still so strong which is a kick in the teeth. We r due to go out for nye and I do not fancy it. Physically I could but I’m drained and don’t feel much like celebrating if we don’t go I need to explain why and don’t really want to tell the people we r going with. Also I’m back to work in 3 days and really not sure I can face it. Anyone going through this right now ?

I’m not but I wanted to send you and unmumsnetty hugs. It’s a terrible thing to go through especially at this time of year.

I’d be prepared for when you go back to work, people will be asking what you got up to over the holidays (not knowing) so you might want to have some stock answers ready such as “on the sofa snacking, mostly”.

Thank you that’s very kind. Not really thought of that and the questions so will definitely be prepared for some answers now. Thanks again xx

Hi

I really do feel for you. I miscarried at the end of October (I was 6 weeks pregnant) and although I was shocked to discover I was pregnant I was very excited especially when I had two scans and had bonded with the baby.

My advice would be to not force yourself to do anything you don't want to do. This is very traumatic and it will take time. Equally at the same time it does help to take small steps and trying to move on and remaining positive. Miscarriages are so common ... but it still doesn't make it any easier. Time is the biggest healer

I had to take one week of work which did help as I was too traumatised. I lost a lot of blood which made me feel very weak and I nearly collapsed at home before my other half rushed me to A&E but it did help going back to work and getting some normality back
Xxx