Failed erpc

[Greymoon2016]

Hi so I've had a really bad day I went into hospital today after learning at my scan tuesday baby had died at 9.5 week's. I wasnt placed on the list till late yesterday so was sent to a ward then was told I was there incorrectly and had to go to day surgery that bit then went smoothly after a four hour wait. I wake up in recovery and told it was all done now I get taken to another ward who weren't expecting me so more faffing about I then have to wait to see a consultant.
He comes in two plus hours later telling me your aware I was unable to complete your erpc as I punctured your womb so you are as you were tuesday.
But as up until Tuesday you werent aware of a problem there shouldn't be one now? Wtf other than the risk of a natural miscarriage at Christmas whilst my small children are at home but what ever. This is is turning out to be horrendous my last MMC I went natural and seeing the tiny little baby broke me and now I've got to face that again any words of wisdom here ladies

Wish I could help. I too had a mmc diagnosed on Monday this week. They couldn’t offer me surgical option until 29 Dec. So I went for pessaries. The baby died at 7 weeks, I would have been nearly 12. I’m worried I haven’t passed everything as a few large ‘things’ (black) on tue eve but not much blood since.
I can’t believe you have been treated so badly. Can they offer you anything else? Hugs xx

Hi thank you for your kind replies I having the tablets Thursday next week if I haven't miscarried by then im bits today as my husband has gone to work and having to look after our other children while not being emotionally able to. I've shouted at everybody today I just want to curl up in a ball and be on my own if the erpc had worked I wouldn't be facing this unknown again especially when my children are here it's the worst situation possible. I'm completely flooding

Can you call on any friends or family to help?
My oh is at work today but he’s been here all week. I’ve just wanted to hide away too. Can’t face going out and seeing babies/pregnant women everywhere.

The worse thing for me is just how cold and black and white my husband is being yesterday when he collected me from hospital I got no hug or anything he just started on about what a pain it was I couldn't have the tablets right away as at least he wouldnt have to take time off work. Seriously have you no heart I'm still carrying our dead child and all you can think of is the practicalities of work and the inconvenience it is for you. I told him he was cold and insensitive but he seems to think him carrying on as normal keeping us afloat as it were is the support I need but it isn't I'm just so broken and angry today

Toffeegurl I'm so sorry your going through this too it's so sad and especially at this time of year. Do you have any other children? Sorry I hope you don't mind but How quickly did the tablets work? Was it really painful? my last miscarriage I let nature takes it course it was extremely traumatic so I'm dreading the tablets

I have 3 children and the youngest is 2, I’m 42 and this was a shock pregnancy but I was just getting used to the idea. I too had the morbid thoughts of dead baby inside me for nearly 5 weeks.
The tablets worked the evening I took them. Bad period pains but manageable with the meds they gave me.
Not as much blood or large clots as I thought. Something black plopped onto the loo, I couldn’t see if it was the sac.
I have to go back on 5 jan for another scan but I think the baby is gone.
I’m so sorry your husband is being so cold and Unfeeling. Perhaps he doesn’t know how to handle it? Xxx