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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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Midwife after Miscarriage

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Lavendersparkles · 20/12/2017 11:07

Is it normal to not be able to contact the midwife? I always thought they'd give a number to reach in case of an emergency. I miscarried at 11 weeks and I've been at home for a week since. I tried to ring the clinic she was based at but they couldn't give her number and said they'd pass message on when she's in again. I still have my pregnancy book etc. She hasn't contacted me or anything since.

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ApplesTheHare · 20/12/2017 19:31

Sorry you're going through this I think only pregnant people have contact with the midwives. Ours don't follow up or anything after miscarriages.

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Lavendersparkles · 20/12/2017 20:01

When I was pregnant I wasn't given a contact number for her. Unless I have to be over 12 weeks before I'm given a contact number for her.

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ApplesTheHare · 20/12/2017 20:40

I've never been given a contact number for a midwife, but the midwife-led unit at the hospital beyond 12 weeks. That's standard here (Yorkshire). What are you hoping to contact her about?

sparechange · 20/12/2017 21:33

After my miscarriages, the only follow-up I had from the midwife team was confirmation that they had cancelled my future appointments, and some leaflets with information about miscarriage support services. My GP also wrote to me to remind me about their support services

What were you hoping to speak to the midwife about?

ShottaSheriff · 20/12/2017 21:38

No follow up at all for me after any of my miscarriages, even the ones where I had surgical management. My GP rang me to see if I was OK after the third one but that was just a chat rather than for any medical reasons.

It might be best to contact your GP for any concerns.

TakeMe2Insanity · 20/12/2017 22:10

Totally normal for them not to contact you again.

RavingRoo · 20/12/2017 22:17

The NHS generally doesn’t care about miscarriages before 12 weeks. If you need help maybe get a referral from your GP

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Lavendersparkles · 20/12/2017 22:55

I just wondered. I guess because I still have the documents and at the time I wondered if the midwife would be aware of what happened. I passed a message on and presume the hospital will have sent paperwork over. I just thought she may have been in touch. It's my first and I was so scared i guess I just wanted reassurance that the chances of this happening again may be a bit slimmer.

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sparechange · 20/12/2017 22:57

It's more a job for your GP to follow up with you... hope you can get an appointment soon

WindyScales · 20/12/2017 23:10

Is there an early pregnancy unit at your local hospital you can contact if you need to speak with anyone. When I had my early miscarriage they were the ones who helped me.
I’m sorry for your loss

ApplesTheHare · 21/12/2017 07:47

Lavendersparkles try the miscarriage association. Midwives don't have the resources to support post-miscarriage. Chances are you'll have a healthy pregnancy next time round and that's all any healthcare practitioner could tell you unfortunately

ApplesTheHare · 21/12/2017 07:51

sparechange unless you're struggling physically (infection, periods not returning, etc.) or mentally the GPs don't follow up or see you usually after miscarriage, presumably due to squeeze on their time.

EnchantedByGin · 22/12/2017 00:09

Sorry to hear you’ve been through this too. It’s such a horrible secret club, that no one wants to be a member of! I mc at the beginning of November at 12 1/2 weeks. Totally knocked me for 6...still not ‘bounced back’.
I’d agree with previous posters, I don’t think it is normal for you to have contact with midwives post miscarriage (depending on how far you were), but as your miscarriage will have been documented on their system in your maternity notes, it is extremely unlikely that you will have been missed and invited for one of what would have been a routine scan or appointment.
I think it is pretty unlikely that your midwife would get in touch, however there must be some difference in service depending on where you are. I have been offered counselling from the pregnancy loss midwife, but feel like there are so many more women who need her...if i’m still struggling and not sleeping in the new year i’ve promised my DH I will. (NB there was an 8-12 week waiting list to be referred for counselling via my GP). I was however, incredibly touched when the midwife who had done my booking at 8 weeks rang me to offer her condolences. So clearly I was pretty lucky and there are some NHS midwives who will.
Wishing you all the best in dealing with the blow mc has dealt and for a successful and healthy pregnancy very soon. X

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